So, i'm going out tonight (my high school reunion) and i'm staying at my best friends moms place so we don't have to drive home. My husband seems to think it's "not right for a married woman not to come home at night". I told him he's crazy, that's i'm not 50 years old and I deserve a night out. He offered to come and pick me up, which I declined. He also could've come, but, isn't the least bit social and I am.
Am I wrong here... it's not like I do it every weekend; probably 2 or 3 times a year.
2007-11-03 07:29:41 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You are right, sorry about that 50 yr old reference...
2007-11-03 09:52:14 · update #1
I loved he offered to pick me up... but, he'd be a pest about it, calling or texting every 20 minutes... "are you ready yet".. and it's the plain fact that he wants to have total control and babysit. I never gave him a reason not to trust me.
And, i encourage boys night out, I trust him... and, I want the same out of him.
Oh, i'm going w/o a doubt.
2007-11-03 09:58:26 · update #2
I can understand not wanting to go to bed without your spouse - but at the same time he's wrong!
There's nothing wrong with you having a sleep-over at your best friend's mom's house. It's kind of him to offer to come and pick you up, but you've already made arrangements for the evening and you're not a teenager that needs to be supervised.
Hope your reunion and sleep-over were great fun!
2007-11-05 01:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Durga sings the classics 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i agree with your husband on this. I could see if he was being unreasonable about picking you up or something but hes offered. Do make sure that he realizes that it will be late at night before he picks u up so he realizes what time he will have to be driving to get you. But you are a married woman. There should be no reason why you can't come home afterwards.
2007-11-03 07:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mary L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very old fashioned and as if he does not trust you. Did he explain why "it is not right"? perhaps he is insecure in some way or maybe this is just his old-world type of idea regarding how women should "behave".
My opinion is that you are right and he is being childish, jealous and controlling. I think you should discuss it further and come to a decision together.
edit: BTW I AM 50!!!! (53) but I would hold this same opinion even if I were younger!!
2007-11-03 07:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Silva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At any given point, nobody's right or wrong in this situation if you both want to still remain in the winning team as a couple. A compromise would be best which means communication must happen withOUT the "control" factor on either part. Even if it's your way, at least you both agreed and you offered a considerable gift in return OR VICE VERSA!
2007-11-03 07:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by loclemons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's odd to stay somewhere so you "don't HAVE to drive home" , yet decline an offerred ride. i mean, if you want a girls night or a girls vacation, just say so. Do you not have to drive to your friends mom's house? Is she picking you up? If so,whats the diff if your hubby picks you up?
I'm just playing devils advocate. I've taken vacations with girl friends without my hubby and see no problem with it. But I can see his point being that your reason for staying is safety, however, him picking you up would be equally safe. It just makes it seem like there is another motivation.
2007-11-03 07:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the question. If your husband went out with the boys 2-3 times a year with plans to not come home at night, how would you feel about it? If you would be okay with it, not jealous or suspicious in any way, then you should explain that to him and go.
If you would not be okay, suspecting that his night out with the boys is really something else, then you should apply the same standard to yourself.
2007-11-03 07:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by quint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances that you have mentioned It seems that he is being a bit too sensitive.
Just tell him that the reason for your staying at your friends moms house is to talk w/each other way into the wee hours about the experiances that you encountered at the reunion while it's still fresh in your minds.
It's time for him to take a chill pill !
2007-11-03 07:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sailon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Mr. is wrong. He is just worried about you, even though I think it is completely fine if a 50 year old doesn't come home at night. However, if you were 15, then I would agree with him.
2007-11-03 07:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by twelveroyaltylane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's crazy...he has to trust you or your life together will be tough....dont offer to call him either, you should not have to check in with anyone...call him in the morning. My husband and I want each other to go out with our friends and have fun...we encourage each other to go out and he would never stop me from staying at a friends.
2007-11-03 07:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he old fashioned or what??
I don't see that it's wrong for a married woman to not come home at night in this instance. It's not like you're cheating or anything!
2007-11-03 07:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Cali_Flwr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋