what can i do to proof?
2007-11-03 06:51:22 · 12 answers · asked by blue_Billy 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Without witnesses, nothing.... as they say of contracts, verbal proof is not worth the paper it's printed on..... also nb that if it is for the purposes of legal process, a private individual recording people without their permission is inadmissable as evidence....
2007-11-03 06:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abusing you verbally in what way? Do you mean in the form of bullying? Being manipulative?
Not sure why you feel you need proof? How do you think that is going to help you? Whom do you want to prove it to? If you FEEL bullied and abused, that is the only "evidence" you need to have.
You can't PROVE that its effecting your mental health , other than by expressing how soul destroying, upsetting and demoralising you find the comments.
The thing is, you can't ever change anyone else. You can't make someone else do or not do what you want. You can't make anyone say what you want to hear, or make them stop saying what you don't want to hear. All you can do is choose how YOU react, how YOU respond and what you DO about it.
You need to learn how to deal with how you feel when you have been verbally bullied. Choose to walk away. Tell the person they have no right to do what they are doing. Tell them you find it upsetting and unjustified.
Some people are just mean, nasty bullies and your best course of action is to keep away from them as much as you possibly can. Being rude or abusive back never works. As these people like arguments and you just end up feeling as bad as they are.
Stand my your own morals and keep your head up.
2007-11-03 15:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only way to prove it is to get it witnessed by another party, or to record it. However, nobody can harm your mental health. Somebody saying bad things to you cannot do anything to you. You can allow yourself to feel bad about it and you can set up reactions that are unhealthy as a response. But nobody's words have the power to do anything to you except give you an excuse. That doesn't mean I think people should talk terrible to each other, I surely do not. But I want you to know that no matter what they say to you, you have the power to ignore it no matter what you might believe. If you know deep down that you don't deserve to be talked to in that way, then you're going to be just fine.
2007-11-03 14:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by CB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that they don't and can't. You do it to yourself. You don't have to take anything anyone says seriously. Remember it is NOT events that upset us it is our belief about those events that we up set ourself about. someone may try but it is you that does the abusing if you buy into what they say. If your not mentally healthy enough you can start believing what someone says after a while. So you have got to work on yourself and dispute what someone says about you.
I noticed some are writing about recording and that is fine and it can be used in court. Everyone has the right to record "their" conversations but you can not record a third party's conversation. I have recording of VA employee;s that i will be sending to senator Carl Levin. It is to prove the incompetents of the Doctors and others at the VA.
Good luck
2007-11-03 14:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by gdc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proof - You need a witness. You can keep a record if it is a constant thing.
Mental health - Depends on the person. If you are sensitive and take things to heart, it will hurt and may even affect self confidence. Otherwise you can just laugh it off and forget it. I was once call 'A f***ing badly dressed moron, who was a blight on society.' ..........I was flattered that they noticed.
2007-11-03 14:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try recording whoever is doing this to you, or try to get a witness. Also, perhaps seeking a therapist for a mental evaluation or something of the like.
2007-11-03 13:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will need the testimony of a medical or mental health expert.
2007-11-03 13:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Renaissance Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is happening in Britain you need a witness as taping or recording events without someone's permission can be seen as a violation of their privacy and can land you in trouble which is exactly what you don't need.
2007-11-03 13:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by CW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go see a doctor
Hope no one is abusing u. If they r find some help quickly at the YWCA, friend's house, parent's house
2007-11-03 13:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by jessicas127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep a voice recorder. switch it on hide in you pocket. Or call the person whom you want to proof and put him on conference.
2007-11-03 13:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by prakash k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋