HELP ME!! My friend has been off her meds for a few weeks now and well she is a totally different person.. She doesn't want to do anything anymore she is very negative towards things and well is just not herself. She has a child and I have notice that she snaps a little more at her now that she is not taking her Effexor.. Can someone give me advice on what I should say to her??
2007-11-03 05:58:22 · 14 answers · asked by Nevaeh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, why did she stop the meds? Effexor is very expensive, even the insurance copays can be quite costly. I've been off mine for over two weeks simply because I can't afford it. If this is the case, maybe her doctor could try her on something more affordable like Paxil. One thing to realize, however, is if she has decided to try life without meds (possibly recommended by her doctor or therapist), it will take a few weeks to clear out of her system. During this withdrawal stage, she will be very irritable, tearful, and non-motivated (possibly worse than before she ever took the meds). She may just need you to help her through another week of withdrawal symptoms so that she can see how she can function without the meds.
Probably the best way to approach her is to gently help her see how her reactions to her child has changed. "Mary, I've been noticing that you seem to get mad at little Johnny a lot lately. Is there something wrong?" Approach your friend from a possition of ignorance (not "I'm your friend and I know what's best" but "I don't know what's going on and I want to understand") and then let her tell you what's going on. When she mentions the meds, ask why she has stopped taking them, then supportively help her come up with solutions.
2007-11-03 06:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by mznocent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was my daughter, I would say to her" "I am really concerned about you. I don't think you realize what a different person you are without your medication. It is like two different personalities. I am worried about you and your child. I know it is not easy taking meds, but if it improves your emotions, don't you think that life would look a little rosier and you would feel better in the long run."
I would keep my eye on the relationship between mother and child. Sometimes, the child is in danger of emotional or physical distress when a parent goes off their meds. If for no other reason, stay friendly so that you can keep your eye on the child. If she does go back on her med, tell her how proud of her you are, and you are glad for her and the child, that she has chosen a better way to live, day by day.
sincerely,
2007-11-03 06:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell here that you've noticed some changes, and you think it might be a good idea if she spoke to her doctor.
As a med, Effexor is unpleasant. If you miss a couple of doses, you feel like CRAP. Maybe her doctor could find a better med for her.
2007-11-03 06:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd speak to her and tell her that I'm worried about her. I'd ask her how she is doing. I'd list the things that I observed and say that those changes have coincided with her going off of her meds. I'd stress the care and concern angle.
2007-11-03 06:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell her she has been acting differently lately and you were wondering if she was off her medication. Sometimes people don't realize they are different and think they are ok. That is the most dangerous times for them.
2007-11-03 06:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by ima-bratt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is definitely the best answer. You are a great friend for seeing this and worrying about it.
She might get angry at first, and may even push you away but down the road she will see that you only had her best interest at heart.
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2016-10-01 22:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with her and tell her very carefully that u r worried about her health and that u see changes in her activity level tell her u think she would be feeling better on her meds and if she gets mad talk to her doctor i u can
2007-11-03 06:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by dollcrew44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell her the truth. i know, if a friend of mine told me they's seen a change b/c of not taking my meds, i'd listen. as friends, we have to be willing to take the chance sometimes. if you don't tell her, who will?
2007-11-03 06:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sry no idea but r u the only one who knows shes off her meads if so you should thell some 1
2007-11-03 06:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋