My grandfather is not going to be around much longer, he is in the hospital and the Dr.'s say it's not looking good. He adores my daughter who is 7 months old, but I don't know if it would be appropriate to take her to his funeral when he does pass. What do I do? Do I take her and just plan on going out in the hall if she becomes fussy or do I find her a sitter? I'm really confused on this one. Please help! Thanks!
2007-11-03 05:54:45 · 9 answers · asked by TAS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on your reasons for bringing her. Funerals are less for the person who has passed and more for the people who are left behind grieving. I think there is nothing wrong at all with bringing your daughter and just go outside if she gets fussy (aisle seat, please.) It shows respect for the joy she brought to your grandfather's life and I think that's a nice way to honor him.
2007-11-03 06:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by banana6464 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in taking a child that young to a funeral but you should just take her to the viewing not unless the viewing and funeral are on the same day. If the viewing and funeral are two different days then go ahead and take her. You probably do not want to take her to the funeral as she could end up crying. I had my first baby May 1971 and my grandmother passed away in Dec.1971 and I took him to the viewing. The funeral was the next day so I had someone babysit for me the day of the funeral.
2007-11-03 13:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take the baby - get a sitter. Your daughter is far too young to understand or remember anything about the funeral, and if she gets fussy, it will just annoy everyone and disrupt the service,which you will miss, because you'll be standing outside with her. Give yourself a chance to show proper respect to your grandfather, and leave your baby at home.
2007-11-03 13:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by lighght30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my grandparents passed, all the great-grandchildren were there. A funeral is a celebration of ones life and how better to do that than including all family members.
We did have a funeral home that had 'family rooms' in the basement where we had a fridge, micro wave, coffee pot and tables & chairs (I had one in a travelling playpen at my grandpa's funeral) so the kids had a place to hang out when the funeral home got busy with non-family visitors.
You can call funeral homes before hand and ask if they have such space available.
If your grandfather loved his granddaughter she should be there as a testament to his love.
2007-11-03 13:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Outta Control 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 7 month old baby won't know where she is or what she is doing there. Why are you confused, use your common sense. Get a baby sitter you trust to sit your baby during the hours of the funeral. Your grandfather, I am sure, will be smiling down at you, after he goes, saying "clever girl".
2007-11-03 12:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take her. funerals aren't like they used to be. they're more of a celebration of life now. besides, having the little one around will be nice.
2007-11-03 13:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A sitter would be better for both of you.
2007-11-03 13:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age it's not going to mean a thing,believe me !!!
2007-11-03 13:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its fine so yeah
2007-11-03 13:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋