it is not fair to let the child down by turning up once every 6 months or so. especialy if he has been granted contact through court.
2007-11-03 05:11:43 · 9 answers · asked by mickeyfish 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
he has been given the right to contact once weekly.
2007-11-03 05:50:51 · update #1
Very little - the court order mandates that the father be allowed to see the child and the mother is not allowed to prohibit him from seeing the child. However it does not enforce him to turn up. Sorry, but that's the situation....
2007-11-03 05:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really needs to get this on a footing so that she and child know what is happening from one month to the next. I would say she needs to start by writing to him: asking him what a more realistic proposal would be for contact, perhaps with her own suggestion - based on what he actually manages contact-wise from one year to the next.
If he replies, she will need to consider if his reply is reasonable and work from there.
If he cannot fulfill whatever contact he proposes/what is in the Order, she should apply to the court to vary the Order. If he suddenly puts in an appearance, he will have to explain to the court why he has not been available for contact to justify why that Order should remain. Her case will have to put forward how it is impractical to not know from one month to the next whether contact will take place or not.
2007-11-05 07:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could go to court and sue to have all contact removed. There is no legal way to force the ex to visit. It isn't fair, but life isn't fair. The best thing to do would be to not raise expectations. The child will adapt.
2007-11-03 05:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be in breach of the contact order
She needs to check the documents that the court gave with the contact order.....it may say that he only has to visit every 6 months (highly unlikely).......If he is suppose to contact regurlaly then he will be in breach and the papers will tell her what to do next eg go back to court
2007-11-03 05:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by stormydays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make no promises to the child about the ex coming, and be honest....don't make excuses for him. I would just go on about life and stay away from the 'daddy' subject as long as the child doesn't bring it up. It is totally up to the father if he wants to see his child or not. Some day he will be elderly and lonely and realize he has missed out on a terrific child. That will be his just reward for missing his child's life.
2007-11-03 05:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by pissy_old_lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there isn't anything you can do. Just be absolutely sure that he pays child support and you know where he is.
He will get payback when the child is old enough to realize what kind of a "man" ( I use the term loosely) he is.
2007-11-03 05:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dirty Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he sees the child once every six months. Is the child happy to see him? Why do you resent and want to prevent this little bit of visitation? You should examine your motivation for this. You will find it is based on hatefulness. I"m sure your happy to accept weekly child support payments.
2007-11-03 05:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by international_bicycle_thief 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do is discuss it with her solicitor, if the ex is constantly missing his contact appointments ,she could get them rescinded.
The main person is the child, he/she needs consistency.
2007-11-03 05:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by firebobby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is free to be a crappy parent. Nothing.
2007-11-03 06:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋