well i have this friend who i really like, and i wanted to know if he is gay (im a guy). ive known him for a year and ive noticed a lot of weird things while we were friends. he would come up to me a lot and he would say stuff like "i love you baby" or "you make me horny." im not sure if he really meant this or if he was just playing. in science class, we sat next to each other (at one table) so we had a lot of touching moments, like he would lay his head down like almost exactly on my arm, and im sure he felt it. we also shared a book (even though there was an entire class set). he also looks at me a lot and when i catch him looking, he immediately looks away. However, he does have a girlfriend and he really acts like he loves her, but at the same time he kind of treated me better than he does all of his other guy friends. is he gay bi or straight?
plz help!!!
-im gay, and no one knows
2007-11-03 04:04:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
awh that really sounds like a sweet friendship. valuable. and i would have to agree with the others, there is that clearly gay "vibe". But then again, as you said it could be playing, there wer guys in my class who everybody said they wer gay cuz they played arround alot (saying things, hugging, grabbing etc.) but to me, they wern't. theyre just best friends. its scary i know, not knowing if u can say something. but if hes your friend, and he does seem like a sweet friend, im sure you can talk in confidence to him. maybe not about him directly but about yourself. maybe not completelty come out to him but hint to him that you have an attraction for guys. who knows, he might agree.
and a word of advise, if it is that you want him to be gay, ive been there with friends, (turns out most of them are, but the one who we all had pegged as gay is completely straight...) dont get your hopes set on one thing or the other. you could end up hurt and loosing a valuable friendship
anyway, good luck,
my two cents is that hes probly 75%... lol
2007-11-03 04:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Seán Mac Aodha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it a question or an Answer?
Buddy, did something hit ur head recently? LOL. If u say no then check what u have typed. Straight guys never do the stuff u mentioned. Of course the guy likes u or maybe loves u(this one is really tricky). If he had slept(i mean intercourse) with his GF then he is Bi n if not then he is Gay. Now its ur duty to find out wether he F*CKED his GF or not! Beware, there r strong chances he could be bloody two timer.
My speculations could be wrong about his Bi or Gay nature but i m damn sure he is not staright. I am a straight guy & i know how does a straight man behaves. I & my GF have many Gay, Bi &Lesbo friendz. We understand them n help them. Unlike other straight people, we dont have any resentment for homosexuals. We r more like Mentors for our Homo friendz.
2007-11-03 04:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of possibilites. First of all, like many people in school, he may not yet fully understand his own sexuality. Secondly, he might be bisexual. Thirdly, he might be gay, but if, as you say, no one knows that you are gay, he might be trying subtly to get you to make a move, so that he doesn't risk offending you. Finally, he may suspect that you are gay and if he is straight, he might be trying to trap you into responding to him in a way which would "prove" your own sexual orientation to him. Unfortunately, if that last situation is the case, he could turn on you in a really nasty way once the truth came out.
You have mentioned his behaviors with him in class and in school. Do you spend any time with him away from school, and is his behavior the same there? If he does things like this in school, and doesn't hang with you outside of school, I would be really careful. If you are friends who go over to one another's houses or party together, the behaviors might be much more innocent.
2007-11-03 04:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean youre gay but no one knows? do you mean you feel you are gay but youre not out yet or youre gay and have a secret bf and no one knows it? well, if he has a gf but he keeps giving you the eye, he's bi but he may not know it yet. if you are gay and think you want to get with him, why not just ask him what he means when he does this or that. maybe he's like totally gay but feels he must keep up a front by keeping the gf. just be careful, whatever you do. you know, the aids and stuff
2007-11-03 04:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's possible for him to be bi. if he doesn't know you're gay he's probably just afraid to be the first to admit it between you two. like, he doesnt want to be embarassed if you didn't have the same feelings. i'm not saying you should shout it out to the world. but maybe you should let him know. i don't think any straight guy would do that to another guy is he didn't have romantic feelings for you.
i hope that helps : )
2007-11-03 04:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet he knows. Maybe he has never put it into words or admitted it to himself and it is something he intuits instead. A sixth sense. Haven't you ever felt completely comfortable with someone, even a stranger you'd only recently met, and yet felt that you able to open up to them on just the basis of something felt instinctively? He has that, and more. Your friendship and your trust.
2007-11-03 04:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer born gay, so as that meana you could opt for whether or no longer you could opt for to be gay. there is isn't a diverse answer. If that's what you opt for then choose for it, if no longer, then do no longer complication approximately it.
2016-11-10 03:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that most guys would act like that... they would be to embarrassed of someone thinking they were gay... but since he has a girlfriend he is probably bi.... but what difference does it make, it still makes him the same person (unless you like him then it kind of matters loll)
2007-11-03 12:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by hey girl hey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he might have something there for u or he's just a friendly guy.... just because he has a grilfriend really doesnt mean anything. alot of people are scared of there sexuality and try to hid it from others! i think u should maybe talk to him about it... well i ope all goes good for you! BEST WISHES:)
2007-11-03 04:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by *Nikki* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he senses you are gay and is just playing around with your emotions. His behaviour certainly is not like a regular straight guy!
2007-11-03 04:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋