My wife and I separated, we have three kids all under 6yrs. I want to go to counseling and she currently is, I brought it up again the other day and she said "until I figure out what I need to do to take of me, and work through my problems, we should not do it until then", we only have been separated for 2 months, but I have a gut feeling that she really doesn't want to do anything for us, but just start living her life by her terms, am I wrong for feeling alienated? We are married aren't we? What does it mean to be separated? I don't know.....
2007-11-03 03:51:00 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It shouldn't be rocket science to figure out what's wrong. Look around on this board and read about the struggles of married mothers with young children. You lived with her before, what was she unhappy about? Work on yourself while she's working on her. Maybe you can both deal with things and get back together at some point.
2007-11-03 04:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a legal separation, it means by court order you can not hang around her. If you separated on your own you can meet anytime you both agree to do so. Yes you are married.
2007-11-03 10:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you can go counselling, individually or together as a couple. Regarding problems, is it good to talk about your problems to everyone that you meet
2007-11-03 11:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her "excuse" is a load of crap..if she was interested in saving your marriage she would go to counseling with you....It's time you see a divorce lawyer and get ready for the "fight"......
2007-11-03 11:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure she needs to find out what she wants but, this is a line of crap. i wouldn't sit and wait for her to make a desicion. what happens if you wait forever only to find out that she's through? nope. she either agrees to settle you issues together or you move on.
2007-11-03 10:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you...
while waiting for her to get to a stage where she's ready to face some hard hitting thruths, i suggest you go to counselling yourself.
the theapist will be able to advise you, and guide you.
best of luck x
2007-11-03 10:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by chilly 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you wont to go to concealing then just go to it when she is ready so will you then
2007-11-03 11:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋