I was cleaning the kitchen last night, and finally got it done. Then my fiancé goes in there and TOTALLY trashes it. I'm talking dishes everywhere, spilled milk all over the counter, crumbs, paper, and other assorted crap all over the floor I just got done scrubbing. I confronted him about the mess, and he says, "well, now you have something to do and you won't be bored." It's like he went and trashed the place because he thinks I don't do enough around the house.....oh God I just feel like strangling him sometimes!
2007-11-03 03:37:08 · 24 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
asshat....that describes him to a T
lol
2007-11-03 03:47:04 · update #1
fu€ktard works too, lol
2007-11-03 04:05:51 · update #2
Personally, asshat doesn't go far enough to describe him.
Dumb, ignorant, thick as pigs*** f***wit probably goes just a little further.
2007-11-03 03:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This comes very close to being the most ignorant behavior a person could show to another.
I have to agree with the others who've answered: Think long and hard before marrying this guy. I suggest you move on. He is an abuser in disguise. The problem is that in time it will only get worse, and you deserve better. This is not a Freudian Slip. It is an indication of how he really feels toward you.
Get those boxes, pack up your things, and make a promise to yourself that you will NEVER get in a position to be treated this way again. Move on! and Good Luck.
Being single is not as bad as being in a dead-end situation you have every reason to believe will get worse over time. I suggest you think of the difference between the door and the doormat. See all those footprints on the doormat? How many do you see on the door? Stand up for yourself. Moving on may be painful for a time, but not as painful as a life of this crap!
2007-11-03 03:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by john_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not respect you and you cannot live your whole life like this. If this is how he is going to treat you in the marriage it is starting out troubled before it is ever started. You need to sit him down and communicate now what is acceptable and not acceptable in your lives. His attitude and behavior has to change because you cannot tollerate emotional abuse. If he has a problem with you he needs to be mature enough to discuss it instead of trashing the kitchen and taking it out on you like what you do there is for nothing. Do not let anyone control you and make you feel that what you do in life does not count. If he does not apperciate you now he will not appreciate you in the years to come. You have to teach now how you want to be treated .....you do not have to raise your voice but do it in a calm way because this will tell him that you mean bussiness. Let him know that you are not fighting about anything in life with him but only open for discussion to change things for the better for both of you! The next time he leaves a mess for you let him know that this is unacceptable and that you are leaving for a couple of hours and will be back when it is cleaned up. Stay away from the mess and behavior as long as it takes for him to understand that you are not going to put up with him acting out like a spoiled child. If this does not work for you then you need to make a serious decision about your future with him.
2007-11-03 04:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds almost like you say you're bored all the time. My mom and dad do that. I'm 22 and if I say I'm bored they will make me something to do.
If that is not the case, then I would definitely tell him about himself and say that you don't clean the kitchen just because and that you do appreciate hiim making a mess and not cleaning up behind himself.
If you are going to get married then work needs to be put in. You are not his mother. He is a grown man, he needs to clean up behind himself.... not make messes for you to clean up. That's retarded.
I would be super pissed if my man did that and then said what your man said. NO WAY! That's an insult of my intelligence.
2007-11-03 04:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he realizes how hard you're working. My husband works a different shift then me so I'm used to having the house cleaned (especially the kitchen) and then he gets home and he eats and I'm doing dishes again and cleaning the counters. I don't mind too much but with my husband he's not doing it deliberately - which is the vibe I get from your fiancee.
2007-11-03 04:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husbands mom used to do everything for him. I'm talking clean his toilet, make his bed, fold his underwear, etc. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to go in the bathroom and clean up your little sprinkle on the toilet seat bc you're to lazy to aim. LOL.! I was talking to my friend at our house a few months ago, and he heard something, and he kept asking me"what? what did you say?" I fainally told him that it was none of his buisiness and to go talk to his friend. He told me, in front of our best friend couple, and all of our kids, to know my place and get in the kitchen and start cookingdinner. I was so mad!!! He never acted like that when we were dating or engaged. He's a completely different person now. Just be glad he's not waiting to show you what his bad habits are until after you guys get married. Good luck!!! Men are silly!!
2007-11-03 03:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him, he's only going to get worse. Tell him he's got to change his ways (and keep being a better man FOREVER) or you won't be with him. Some men are just really stupid. Or maybe he's trying to get you to leave him because he's too chicken to end it himself. Guys do things like that all the time when they really don't care or want to get out of a relationship.
If you get married, it will only get worse. If he doesn't respect you now, he will respect you even less once he feels like he "owns" you. It's a warning sign.
2007-11-03 04:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you didn't clean it up!! If you had just finished it and he made a mess like that he should have cleaned it up. You should have told him no I wont be bored and neither will you cause you will be cleaning it up and I got other things to do!!
Not so sure this is a relationship you want the rest of your life. I would be thinking twice about it...
2007-11-03 03:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should make him clean up the mess, if he refuses kick him out to the curb, because if you marry this guy he would want you as his maid and not as a wife who would need help at certain times.
2007-11-03 04:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go today and get some boxes. Pack up all of your belongings. Make a huge mess. When he asks what you're doing, tell him you refuse to marry an a$$hole and now he'll have something to do too......good luck ;)
2007-11-03 03:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋