Why is it uncool to be a feminine woman these days?

Question

I see where you're coming from Sassy. But I think there's too many of you these days actually.

thing550, yeah I know it's about sequins and glitter. That just doesn't define feiminism for me at all.
Basically, stef sums up everything: you can be dressed all nice and pretty, but that doesn't make you feminine.

Answer 1

Being feminine is not about sequins and glitter or about being squeamish about bugs. It is about expressing your womanhood. Revel in your femininity. You are woman. You can be feminine and strong. You are not a man. You don't have to act like one to be heard. That is the great thing about Yen and Yang. Just be sure of your self and feel secure in your own skin. You will be noticed for the strength that you have and the positivity you project. You go girl!!!

Answer 2

I don't think its uncool and I don't see it as that. Of course I suppose it depends on where you live. I am 24, married and a teacher. My husband and I plan on having children in 3-5 years. I feel as though I am a natural nurturer. I wear pants, but I would rather wear a skirt if the weather is warm. I am feminine, I love being feminine and embracing it. No one has ever looked down upon me for it or told me it was "uncool". In fact many of my friends look up to me for knowing what I want and then doing what is needed to get it in a respectful manner. Respectful being the key word. I think many have forgotten what it really means. As stef mentioned, barking orders and demanding what you think you want is not feminine or masculine, its just selfish. There is an old saying I am sure many have heard, but I will repeat it because I believe it "You catch more bees with honey, than vinegar."

I think what many find "uncool" are people (both men and women) who have no goals or ambitions in life. That is not feminine, that is just lazy.

Answer 3

convinced, I blame political correctness that leads to a comfortable and unrealistic view of the international. a good party of what concerns me is at the same time as Iranian Gun Boats can take a motley crew of Royal, army wimps and a lady prisoner and not using a shot being fired. would which have befell even 50 years in the past? i imagine no longer. contact events should be presented into colleges and the media should be used to promote braveness and journey really of a BBC Lovey time table of tolerance and equality. at the same time as did those virtues ever carry about something yet defeat and slavery?

Answer 4

Uh? You mean ... why are there so many women who actually speak their minds and don't bow deferentially to jerk men when the men attempt to control them or destroy their rights and don't sit about like nice quiet little house decorations? Hmm.

I think you're entirely wrong. It's far more cool to be a "feminine" woman house decoration than a woman who is independent and uses her brain and doesn't need men's approval to feel justified in her existence. I see few of these latter types of intelligent women in the media. "Feminine" women are all over the place. They're the ones who help keep morons like Bush in the presidency and think all women are supposed to agree with them that having babies is life's highest calling.

Answer 5

Femininity (as well as masculinity) are social constructions. They are a way of categorizing and stereotyping people, attempting to put some kind of objective standards on what makes a man or what makes a woman. Some people--like myself--find such systems to be very confining and often insulting. I don't think it's fair for me to be considered less feminine if I don't happen to like the things that comprise "traditional" femininity. Feminism is about dismantling these social constructions and allowing women (and men!) to determine for themselves what they feel makes a true woman/man.

That said, as far as why it's uncool, I don't really know. I suppose it depends on where you are geographically and what kind of social circle you hang around in. But perhaps most importantly, it depends on how you define feminine. The narrower the definition, the faster it will fall out of favor because it places unrealistic expectations on women without providing any GOOD reasons to live up to them.

So maybe it's uncool because we just got sick of the bulls***?

Answer 6

EDITED to say: Oh please, like I care what you wear. Your comment is that it's uncool to be feminine. My point is, 'who says'? You make your own cool. Get over it.

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Are you serious? Have you ever looked in a fashion magazine?

The latest trends are all about floaty fabrics, sequins and glitter. It's just as girly as can be and it's high fashion.

If you feel uncool being 'feminine', maybe you need to ask yourself why, instead of shifting the blame for your feelings off onto other people and pretending thay 'make' you feel bad about yourself.

You've got a choice, use it and accept responsibility for the decisions you make.

Cheers :-)

Answer 7

trends come and go, and very rarely last long.....I was unaware that is was uncool to be feminie these days, but then I never tried too hard to follow the trends. I do what makes me happy, and I believe that's the beauty of our western society today, we have the freedom to follow our hearts.

Perhaps this is a localized trend in your area? I really don't know what you are referring to.

Answer 8

Being physically feminine is fine- doing something absoluletly feminine is fine as long as you like it-what is uncool is when one is expected to be feminine just because you are a woman-what is uncool is when you are expected to tow the line when you dont want to, what is uncool is when YOU ARE NOT GIVEN A CHOICE BECAUSE YOU ARE A WOMAN

Answer 9

since the responses to your question are all over the place...maybe we could use a definition of the word "uncool".

Answer 10

Oh I love to be feminine.
Like someone lifting things for me. Giving a seat. Hold the door for me and so on.
I think I enjoy it and do not think it uncool.