my friend told me she was Bi....im not though. i kind of already had a feeling she was because she would make comments towards other girls . Example: she is so pretty,her booty is bigger then mine and yours,look at her boobs they are big. we were watching 101 most hottest bodies and JLO was on there she was just watching the screen like she was crazy or something. i told her i was but im not. i lied to her,i pannic. but after she told me and we talked about it. She started acting different towards me like she may like me or something. How do i ask her do she? I just would like to know.never had a friend that was Bi. i dont want her to be hurt if i ask (if you know what i mean). But i need to know because she always saying something that a girl shouldnt say to another girl. FOR THE RECORD I HAVE NO PREOBLEM WITH HER BEIN BI-SEXUAL. IM NOT BI-SEXUAL IM STRIAGHT
2007-11-02 20:31:58 · 15 answers · asked by glamorous 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your mistake was to lie to her that you are Bi.
Just let her know... you respect that she is Bi but tell her that you are not Bi. Then she will probably stop acting weird in front of you or hitting on you. But REALLY let her know that you are straight as 2 parallel lines!!!
Good Luck!
2007-11-02 20:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She might have just told you because it was bothering her and it is a part of her life that she wants you to know about since you two are close.
You probably shouldn't have said you were bisexual as well because if she does have some interest in you, she will think you are OK with it and you aren't necessarily OK with it.
You should probably speak to her and come clean that you aren't bisexual but just let her know that you are totally OK with her being bisexual.
If she likes you, it will come out fairly quickly or over the course of time. If you let her know you are fine with her being bi, then she might be OK with you asking her questions such as whether she ever saw you in a sexual way.
2007-11-02 20:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think you should tell your friend that you lied before and that you're not actually bisexual. Since you've told her you are bisexual, it is giving her (in my opinion) false hope that you could possibly be interested in her...and I don't think that's a nice thing to do to your friend. I think it is important to have a friendship based on honesty...but if you really don't want to tell her that you lied before and if you want to know if she likes you, just come out and ask her. If she says yes and you don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her you don't like her or admit your true sexuality, just tell her that you would never want to risk losing the friendship you have with her in order to have a romantic relationship and she should (in my opinion) understand.
Or if you don't want to be that direct, you could explain that you think she's been acting differently toward you lately (since you "came out" to one another) and see what she says. As long as you politely explain that you're not interested, even if she does like you, she should be able to accept what your feelings are and move on.
2007-11-02 20:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Janineisacoolsouthernchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is pretty clear already, you don't have to ask. Yes, she is bi, and yes, she likes and wants you, but she knows she isn't supposed to. That's why she hasn't really tried anything yet.
When i was a young teen, I didn't know I was bi, I thought I was straight like everyone else, and getting horny about girls made me panic until I realized the truth. I think it isn't really possible to know for certain about your sexual orientation until you have had sex and found out what you like. That's one reason i think it is so wrong to force kids to wait until marriage, it can seriously futz with their life.
2007-11-02 20:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm..... woww thats a tough one ummmmm tell her the truth explain to her that you dont have a problem with her being bi but youre not. tell her in a respectful way and make it clear that you are ABSOLUTLY OK WITH THE FACT THAT SHES BI! also tell her if u feel a little uncomfterbul about the situation..if shes your friend she wnt take it personally. tell her it will take time but you'll get use to it.
2007-11-02 20:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by maria. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you lied.
Tell her you lied because you really like her as a friend, and you are afraid that she won't want to befriend you if you are a bi.
2007-11-02 20:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like you.... just cuz she is bi, doesnt mean in any way the she is attracted to you.... its hard when people learn that other people are gay or bi and they automaticly think- oh maybe they like me.... they dont..... just be her friend...and dont put you both in an uncomfortible situation because of your ego........ ( i dont hope dont think im too mean.. i just get sooo tired of this question)
2007-11-02 20:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should come right out and ask her if she likes you:just make it well known that you are straight. that you have no desire of being with another woman.she will get the hint.
2007-11-02 20:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friend are you that you would take her situation and use it to turn the focus on you?
2007-11-02 20:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you join her and have a good life togather, I think you are BI too.
2007-11-02 20:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋