his sisters like me......
2007-11-02 19:30:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THANKS GUYS, I ALWAYS SHOW MOM AND DAD THE MOST RESPECT. OUR PRIEST SAYS THEY JUST HAVE DIFFERENT BELIEFS THAN US BUT TONIGHT WAS ANOTHER BAD NIGHT AND I WAS FEELING BAD.... AGAIN.... I WISH THEY COULD JUST SEE HOW WONDERFUL THEIR SON AND GRANDKIDS ARE AFTER ALL THESE YEARS! THANKS AGAIN!
2007-11-02 19:48:39 · update #1
If your marriage has survived 25yrs without their support, I don't think now is the time to worry about it. You could ask his sisters, they should know, and ask them to be honest with you; but the truth is that you may be living in blissful ignorance. You might be better off not knowing, but then again knowing may help you get a better understanding of them.
Generaly speaking though, its not everyone you meet that you like and not everyone who meets you likes you. It's unfortunate, but its just a fact of life.
If doesn't affect your marriage, let it go. It hurts cos you keep wondering if you've done anything wrong, or you're not good enough for their son or are inadequate somehow. Come to terms that it's not you , it's them.
Miserable people always look for other people to make miserable too. And the fact that they don't look or act miserable doesn't mean they're not.
As someone else said, killthem with kindness. And never let how much they hurt you show.
I'm sure it will be alright in the end.
2007-11-02 19:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by dVine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 25 years there's nothing you can do about your relationship with the in-laws that hate you. However, you can keep doing what you're doing with your husband, cause whatever you're doing...it's working for you guys!! You probably have to come to terms with the way they feel about you, sounds like no matter what you do, they will still feel the same way. So, instead of killing yourself, make sure you are cordial but not overly nice. Grant them the respect they deserve, but don't over extend yourself for them. And, make sure to keep them out of your relationship with your husband.
2007-11-02 19:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by flamewars1111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girlfriend loves me, but her mother hates me... i'm in a much worse situation than you sweety. if you've been married for 25 years and they still aren't too fond of you, maybe its time to throw in the towel. you're marriage won't suffer from it..
your hubby has already probably resigned himself to the fact that they don't like you, and he just hasn't told you all the nasty things they say behind your back... and you know they do...
maybe your husband is addicted to you and will do whatever you tell him to do, and they can't get him to do the same, therefore they resent you for having that power over him..
perhaps it's the way you smell.. do you indulge yourself with garlic or curry? perhaps a breath mint or will help you CURRY (pun very much intended) favor with them.
also take a look at the gifts they have given you in the past.. if there seems to be a trend (ie soap, perfume, etc) then you probably just stink...
i hope this makes you laugh
2007-11-02 19:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the 25 years!! I know it's hard when the in-laws don't like you, but I assume your husband is worth it since you've been together for so long. Just try to be yourself and include all of the family all of the time. If they just don't come around, then it's on them. You go on and enjoy your life with you husband.
2007-11-02 19:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THe inlaws are barabaric and feral. Its the 21st century, why are they still stuck in the ancient culture!
its been 25 years and duh, why do they continue to hate you?
Anything you have done to piss them off?
You married their son, they cannot do anything about it.
I think you need to find a private time to talk to your in laws and discuss this situation, you cant go on hating each other. You need to talk to them, go to their house and spill your guts out.
Bring food off course, a pie, cookies or wine (make sure that when the argument gets heated, no bottle is gonna sink to your head)
2007-11-02 19:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about them. After 25 years,they wont likely change.
2007-11-02 19:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by less 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Barbra, I would suggest a few counseling sessions to help you understand why this is still so frustrating to you. There are just some personalities that other personalities will not get along with.
2007-11-02 19:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've survived 25 years without their 'approval'. It's obviously THEIR problem NOT yours. If they can't get over it, it's their loss. Don't get into any silly games or pretences. You obviously have the approval of he who matters most. Just keep on being you.
2007-11-02 19:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by chrisviolet4011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a big family holiday to Peru, and let them wander off into the jungle. Perhaps give them a nice loud boom-box to attract the guerillas. (or gorillas)
2007-11-02 19:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tunips 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weather you want it or not, when you married you husband, you married his family too.
How do you know that they don’t love you?
May be it has all to do with your mind set, how you see things.
Change you mind set; start showing them love genuine love.
It will pay in the long run.
Good luck.
2007-11-02 19:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋