Is this wrong?

Question

Someone I now recently got me fired. They work for a competior. But just happen to have a big mouth. They don't know I know about his wife having a affair when was recently out of town on business. His wife is real cokehead whore. I want to send a anyonmous letters to his wife and the people works with telling them of what his wife his doing as revenge. IS this wrong or bad. Its truth so its not slander. Plus there will be no evidence of who leaked the affair. He will just be humilitated and embarsed. Which is what I am striving for. Please let me know what you think. Its not slander cause it is true. Otherwise i could sue them for leaking that i wanted to go to graduate school in January which was not true. Women fired me on that basis. Which I could prove because she spoke with him. Then wrote me for a 30 Day Performance notice which was garbage and I could prove

Answer 1

How did a competitor's employee get you fired? That doesn't even make sense. My bosses would never believe anything that a competitor would tell them. They might however, believe it about an employee they wanted to fire anyway.

As for the best defense against slander is the truth, what real proof do you have? Do you have DNA evidence? Pictures? Or just your word? And trust me, this could boil down to your word against theirs, which would be at least two of them to one of you.

Take the high road and just find a new job and get away from these people. You will never regret taking the high road. I can see a million ways that taking the low road could come back and bite you in the butt.

Answer 2

Sorry to tell you that it is wrong.
He may already know that his wife is having an affair and he may not care (you do not know for sure).
I have to write 3 different well know sayings here:
What goes around comes around.
Two wrongs do not make it right.
And the last one which I am a firm believer of is that all things happen for a reason.
You may not think it right now, but your loosing your job may be the best thing that has happened for you. With what just happened to you, these the type of people you want to be
working around? Who knows if they did not let you go this time then what would it be the next time, it could be a lot worse.
If you feel the need to write the anonymous letter, then do so and put it in an envelope (make sure you are wearing gloves and do not lick the envelope shut). DO NOT send the letter, just hang onto it. Also write down the wrong doing that was done to you. Place both letters in a box or larger envelope and label it "My Inspiration".
Now use this terrible experience as a motivator for you to move on. Get a better job, or go and further your education.
If you continue to dwell on this, you are wasting valuable energy that you can be putting towards bettering yourself.
I wish you the best and hope that it all work out for you.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

If you can prove it then go ahead take it to higher authority if you really feel that you were wrongfully fired. And as for the wife thing revenge usually only causes problems especially anonymous letters they can reverse that aginst you. If she denies the affair they can call it slander. hmm well humiliation and emberassment can be fun well it used to be anyway now they try to make it so that its something they can sue for . if you go through none of my business but watch out for emotional distress or somthing like that in court

Answer 4

if you can prove so many things...give it up...they probably had other reasons for firing you. i wouldn't want an employee who is so tied up in thinking about revenge. revenge gets you nowhere. i promise it will not even feel good. get a new job and stop trying to make other people feel bad. search inside of yourself to understand and love the part that wants to hurt others. do you really think you could fund (and win) a lawsuit? is it worth it? most likely your performance was not good and your boss firedyou for other reasons, too. you probably cannot prove what you think you can prove.

Answer 5

Damn these people. I walked out on a female lawyer once (she was SOOOOO HORRIBLE and I worked in law for 16 years) and it was the ONLY job I ever walked out on (but she deserved it big time).....she found me everywhere I went by showing up for depositions, etc. and next thing I knew, after running into her at other firms, I would lose my jobs......I so wanted to get back at her but didn't know how. I DON'T BLAME YOU ONE BIT. I know it's probably not "right" but when your income is taken away from you because of a mean person, you feel like you NEED to get back at them. What goes around comes around as a rule, but when it happens to you personally YOU want to be the one to make it happen. Your question made me angry (not at you of course) but at mean people -- period. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

You're spending way too much time thinking about this. Jobs come and go, especially these days. Spend your time more productively and go get a new job where you don't have to deal with people like this.

Take the high road. They are not worth your attention.

Answer 7

Sorry that you got fired, but emotionally you should move on with your life, dwelling on it is only hurting you more. Hope things work out for you, the best revenge is to have a GREAT life.

Answer 8

Heck, sounds like you would be doing him a favor not hurting him. He probably is running around too and if he found out about her he could use it in divorce court. Find something on him not her. If you know, don't you think others probably know too.

Answer 9

Revenge isn't a healthy thing, although I think it's great you're talking about your feelings. It's good to get them out!

Answer 10

Doesn't make any difference what you where terminated for. That is acting like a child. Grow up, things happen. Welcome to the adult world. Just forget it,and get a better job. Why would you even want to do something that childish,unless you don't mind lowering yourself. Forget it.