I notice when she is done with her new boyfriend she calls me to talk and comes over for bak mesages ? he has a wife and 2 boys ? he probably wants my girlfriend, she has no kids yet. what can i do to get her back ? she runs up my cell minutes to talk but nothing like i love u or anything. she wants to me talk too but no sexual relationship, just to past the time ? what can i do? should i move on ? how can i compete against her new boyfriend ?
2007-11-02 16:00:29 · 24 answers · asked by blah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not a question of getting back in a relationship with her as much as it is about getting a straight story.
Firstly, don't make the mistake that a 10-year relationship is anymore valuable than a 10-day relationship. If the relationship is unbalanced, it's not worth another day of your time or effort.
She's sending you mixed signals by reaching out to you, but it appears by her lack of intimacy with you that she's using your selflessness as an emotional crutch.
You need to let her know how you feel when she pulls you into her drama, and that you want her back only if she's willing to commit herself to you. Otherwise, you'd rather she not call you anymore as its too confusing and painful.
She'll either go her merry way and allow you to recover from the breakup or she'll want you back. Frankly, I think you're better off without her kind of love.
2007-11-02 16:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by foolhardly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want her back. Even if you get her back, it is because the other guy is done and tired with her. She will just be picking you not because of love, but because you are the sorry old lover who won't go tired of her. You are the safe choice, her safety net, you are everything to her... but YOU ARE NOT THE MAN SHE LOVES!
You need to wake up! And if you really love her, don't allow her to settle for second best, coz that's exactly what she'll be doing if she ends up with you.
2007-11-02 23:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by darmonx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are elusive.They can be easily attracted by a man who can give them comfort and safety. Maybe you should think about it all over again and find out the reason why she left you. If your girl gets jealous easily, maybe you can find another girl to irritate her. Or maybe you should just let go and find a better one.
2007-11-02 23:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry her. If you are non-committal, you can only expect the same from her. 10 years is a long time to have a relationship to not go anywhere with it.
2007-11-02 23:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by martinlh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to compete with anyone if she really cared for you which it doesn't sound like she does she would think of your feelings and she wouldn't leave you on the back burner so to speak. you should move on and find someone who is decent and who you deserve and someone who will cherish you as well. tell her to hit the road and don't call you anymore. take care
2007-11-02 23:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by freda d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't put up with this - she is probably bored and lonely when the new man is with his real family! She obviously sees you as a friend so if you want her back again you will have to give her the old ultimatum - no comunication or back with me completely!
2007-11-02 23:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What new bf he's married. If you have been with her for 10yrs why did u not ask to marry? Maybe she just wants you as a friend since your relationship hasn't progressed any farther in 10yrs.
2007-11-02 23:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend is messing around with a married man? i would begin first to question her morals rather your feelings.. if she is willing to do that, why would you want too care for someone who has become a home wrecker .. tell her how you feel and then let her go.. you deserve someone with a better set of values and morals..
2007-11-02 23:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not competing against him its showing her that you love her. but by the sounds of things sahe is just finding friendly comfort in talking to you . nothing that she would want to go back to ..
2007-11-02 23:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but she is using you. Move on to someone who deserves a person that will listen like you do.
2007-11-02 23:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋