Although I'm female, my best friend at school was male. We were together for 7 years and we were so close. Once, he asked me to be his girlfriend but I loved him too much to risk losing him so I said no.
Anyway, that was 10 years ago. Now I haven't seen him for 10 years as we lost touch when I moved away. I recently found his myspace page and sent him a message asking 'how are you?'
His exact words were 'Who the Hell are you?' which is ridiculous because I have an unusual name and I know he knew who I was. I said, I'm (my name) and told him and I've heard nothing since.
Why would you blank an old friend like that? I refuse to contact him again. He's had his chance. I just feel hurt that our friendship obviously meant more to me than it did to him. It's been 6 weeks now and still no response.
I'm woman enough to let it go but it still hurts that someone I thought was a real friend actually doesn't even want to know me anymore
2007-11-02 15:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Actually we did sleep together once. It was a drunken mistake and it was my first time and I said 'it's wrong, we should not have done that' and he agreed that it was a mistake. It's been 10 years though, and we're both married to other people now so I thought that should not matter anymore?
2007-11-02 16:12:03 · update #1
Maybe you really hurt him by rejecting him back then and he's still holding a grudge. Maybe his wife or girlfriend opened the email, perhaps???
2007-11-02 15:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was a waste of time. It sounds like you are honestly doing your part to try to reach out to someone that you liked being friendly with. Sending a message without a friend request is actually I think the best thing to do. Besides the fact that "you don't want to be rejected" (because it's her problem anyway), I think it shows good manners, like you are respecting her decision and not acting all clingy. I do think it's a waste of time that you worry so much. Sometimes friendships don't restart for mysterious reasons. Don't worry, because life always brings new friends.
2016-04-02 01:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got a busy life perhaps and you have not been part of whatever is in his life right now and just were not on the top of his priority list. maybe he gets loads of e mails each day to deal with as in business etc and yours simply was not urgent to reply to and now is lost somewhere on his comp. Quite possible nothing personal eiother way.....like or dislike want or not want prob don't feature for him. You are reading too much into this situation. Could risk trying again and if blanked then maybe you have your answer.
2007-11-03 21:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe life hasn't been kind to him, so he's changed over the years for the worse. It's a shame, and you probably regret ever having contacted him as it will affect those memories that you had of him, but hopefully you will be able to forget about this 'encounter' and it will be as if it never happened - and you'll still be able to remember the good times.
2007-11-02 15:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by .єmιlч. .ωєmιlч. ~♥~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he may not have turned out so nice, people are very diffrent to what they were 10 yrs ago as I am sure you know. Just forget about it and remember the good times.
2007-11-03 05:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Reb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friends do not 'lose touch' for ten minutes, let alone ten years. You do not give friends, ' a chance'. You have both moved on by the looks. I wish you well. Terry.
2007-11-02 18:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by terrysains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a grip of yourself girl,nothing has occured for you to be reacting in such a passionate way.make an appointment with your gp and have a good old chat about your innapropriate behaviour,good luck,lynn.
2007-11-02 18:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by AGGIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did forget you, i mean he is human. or maybe he doesn't wanna be associated with you 'cause he might feel abandoned, you know since you moved or he's mad for you refusing his proposal, stuff like that.
2007-11-02 16:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had something similiar happen... i wrote him, and we were Super close in highschool... i think he thought it would bring up old hurts... just dont worry about it, and move on... hold on to the old memories
2007-11-02 15:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess he was hurt more than YOYU thought or has a girlfriend now who he doesnt want to upset if she knows about him and your past relationship?
2007-11-02 16:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by roncj88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋