How do you put your broken spirit back together after?
What does it take?
2007-11-02 15:32:16 · 16 answers · asked by Cowgirl Up Yours 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Isn't it just great froggy? I'm sorry you had to deal with that...
2007-11-02 15:55:07 · update #1
I was abused by my adoptive mom both physically AND verbally AND mentally. Sucked extra bad cause once I got adopted I thought all that would stop.....kinda defeated the purpose of getting adopted, ya know. And what really sux is that you NEVER really get over it. I still feel the effects of it. I still have nightmares about it. And I STILL see parts of her in me......I can only hope that as time passes so too will the scars that she left on me. That is what keeps me going......that one day I will pull thru the mire and muck and be able to stand tall and raise up from the cowered man that I am.......
2007-11-02 16:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been verbally abused and it is sometimes worse than being physically beaten. I think the pain comes from the shock of hearing abuse from someone that you cared about or trusted. It does break your spirit, as I guess you know. I think that you need to stand up for yourself and recognize that the person doing the abusing is not in control of himself at the moment. He uses words to tear you down when he is probably feeling insecurity and rotten about who he is. Regardless, no one deserves to be treated in that manner. I think you need to tell the person, when they are not mad, that you do not expect to hear those words again and that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior ever. You need to stay away from people who attack you, tear you down and verbally persecute you. Someone who deals with stresses by doing this type of thing is not making your life a better place, he is destroying parts of you and your feelings for him. Do not allow anyone to destroy you with words. Back away from a relationship which is destructive to you and learn to love yourself; to appreciate your good traits and to have respect for yourself by not allowing it. If you are in a relationship and choose to stay, then you must demand that the person who is doing this get some professional help. If they don't, this type of behavior can destroy any good that has been there. Don't put up with it.
2007-11-02 15:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my marriage I was verbally abused....too stupid to go to college (went away and carried a 3.75 gpa), too ugly to get any one but him (many others have crossed my life), then on to the emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, and social abuses. I have had them all. PUT YE BEHIND ME SATAN....and that's what I did. I moved on. If I dwelled on the abuses I would still be a VICTIM. I won't be a victim anymore. I AM ME! ELLEN MARIE and I am progressing in leaps and bounds even with my "terminal"? illness. Do not live in the past....or the future. LIVE TODAY LIKE IT IS YOUR VERY LAST DAY ON EARTH...it could be you know. Take chances ....put the past BEHIND where it belongs.{ Quit being the VICTIM. BE YOU! WONDERFUL GINNY.} Thank you for allowing me to vent this one out. Feel better now! ;))))))
2007-11-02 16:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by missellie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have dealt with verbal abuse since I was a child, it was more intense as an adult but the recovery is slow because the mental stuff never goes away, you just have to find a way to accept, deal with it and replace those things with positive people in your life that will help strengthen your self esteem and shattered ego!!
2007-11-02 16:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ginny 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most of my life. I don't know if you totally get over it, but you can move on and learn to live your life productively and with a certain degree of happiness. A lot of prayer and soul searching helps. You also have to learn to forgive the abusers. It doesn't mean you will forget, but it will help you to heal. Bitterness and dwelling on the negative will only bring you down in the long run. It's taken many years and tears for me to move on and heal from the damage that was done.
2007-11-02 15:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shrew 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time I ever insult anybody is if they are making fun of challenged kids or just being really silly, and even then I'm not really rude about it, I just try to get a point across, that they're being ridiculas and should think twice next time before they post!
2016-04-02 01:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have been the "fly on the wall" in my house yesterday...When you find out how to mend a broken spirit and heart will you let me know?
2007-11-02 16:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes most of us have . there are people out there that I would like to hurt bad ,But I will not I would if I had too ... But I don't so I choose to walk away.....I know I did not answer this that is because I can not put all my pieces back together myself....lovyou girl
2007-11-02 15:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by BLUE ROCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was verbally abused everyday for eight years of wedded bliss. Only time will heal.
2007-11-02 15:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by mjfrog 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
sexually harassed by the language used by people at work. Management was "afraid" to say anything to the blacks lest they get a beat down on they way out to their cars after work.
2007-11-02 15:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋