I am 20 years old and consider myself bisexual. However, I have been limited to dating men being lesbians seem to want nothing to do with me. Because most of the lesbians I have met are white, I just want to know if I am just not desired because I am a woman of colour!
I know that some lesbians don't particularly like us bisexual girls but I have had very strong feelings for a few women who I just couldn't convince to give me a chance.
It also seems that every girl I try to talk to online is a man pretending to be woman.
I'd really love to be in a relationship with a woman but I feel like I should just give up. Should I?
Don't hesitate to be honest, please!
2007-11-02 15:13:30 · 17 answers · asked by Reiko K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I could be wrong about this, so take it with a grain of salt. From my personal experience and that of my friends, many gay folks tend to steer clear of bisexuals. I have no idea why, really, but even I fall into that category. I would love to say that your race doesn't play a part, but some people just can't get over that either.
Beyond all of that, KEEP LOOKING. There's someone out there who will love you for who you are. It just takes time to find 'em.
Best Wishes~
2007-11-02 15:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously those lesbians you have met forget what it's like to be judged because of what you are. Why limit yourself to lesbians, though? Try other bisexual women. And yes, I do know what you mean about some men pretending to be women....it get old, but they are horny and just cannot seem to control themselves. Remind those women that they are doing exactly what people have done to them for decades. It is not right to judge a person based on sexual preferences and obviously they are judging you because they don't think of you as a "true lesbian". I even know lesbians that claim you cannot be bisexual.....you can't desire both sexes, but I guess they don't realize that they can't be every person and feel everything that others feel. Take your time, search for the right person and eventually he or she will come along.
2007-11-02 15:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dated a black bisexual girl.
We did turn out to be better friends (and then better enemies) than partners, but I just wanted to let you know that not all lesbians are like that.
Oddly enough, she was 20, too.
The only advice I can give you is don't pretend you are someone you're not. The right girl or boy will come along and love you for you.
2007-11-02 15:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing has nothing to do with your sexual preference or your race. It has to do with your age. You are still insecure in yourself, questioning your attractiveness, questioning if there is something wrong with you. Comfort yourself in the knowledge that all normal people have such doubts and also in the fact that, in a very few years, you will look back and view your self doubt as totally without foundation. Some people reach that happier stage of self assuredness before twenty, some later. You sound like a sincere attractive person anyway.
2007-11-02 15:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by buddyboy546 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right -- lesbians don't like bisexuals very much. Don't know why -- maybe they feel you should make up your mind one way or the other? Men like bisexuals because every man's fantasy is to watch two women together. Whatever.
2007-11-02 15:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should give up; I think you should look in a different place. Maybe the lesbians where you are are stereotypical, or maybe you should try to hook up with another bisexual woman.
2007-11-02 17:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? Hmm. Color can be a problem in some cases. And the guys pretending to be girls. = weird on their part. aha.
Hmm. Some white girls wont like colored girls. I dont see the issue but i know this to be the case in some problems.
However, dont give up! Be PATIENT! You'll find happiness someday. theres someone for everyone, including the gays and bisexuals. :]
Good luck.
2007-11-02 15:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by kalibarnade 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Finding a responsive and compatible partner is hard for everyone, not just bi or gay people.
Don't give up - its a matter of patience. The right partner (whichever gender that ends up being) will come along (no pun intended).
2007-11-02 15:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is more than one kind of prejudice. A lot of gay people think that bisexuals are "not gay enough", although this is really ridiculous. You are what you are - if they don't like you, move on to somebody else.
2007-11-02 15:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps they think you're too pretty, that you may abandon them for a man one day.
Could be the color barrier thing too, don't see how, you're all the same way.
2007-11-02 15:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by Academy& Clockworthy 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋