I feel left out and feel like I don't fit for some reason. I'm 29 year old SAHM of an almost 4 year old boy. All the moms in my son's playgroup are all young like 24 years old. I still feel very young than my age but I feel like I don't fit in because of my age and I'm kinda jealous because they're all younger than me and more mature than me. How do I get over it?
2007-11-02 14:43:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am married to my kid's dad. What does this have to do with my question?
2007-11-02 14:49:08 · update #1
I got married at 29 and had my first child at 31, my second at 33. While I'm lucky that most of my mom friends are about the same age as I am, I also know many moms who are over 40 with their first children. It's funny because even though my friend Sonia is 43 and has 2 kids, in many ways at age 37, I feel more experienced than she is. That's because I am! I have 2 more years of being a mom ahead of her. Perhaps that's what you're feeling with these other moms? They are younger than you are and started having kids earlier, so they may have a bit more experience than you do.
Try not to think about your age vs their age. I'll bet they don't think of you as "older" - they probably just think of you as another mom friend they have. Try to recognize that people have kids when it is the right time, it's different for everyone and there is no "right" age to start having kids (well okay, so I don't think having kids at age 17 is the right age, but you know what I mean). When you're ready emotionally, financially, mentally, etc. then it is the right time for you.
The important thing is how lucky you are to be a mom and to have friends! I'm sure you're attracted to these women for some reason - they must be fun to be around, maybe you learn from their experience or whatever. I'm sure you also bring some good qualities to the table; otherwise they wouldn't be hanging out with you.
Enjoy this wonderful time in your life with your kids and your mom friends. When I first had my kids, I felt a little out of it because I had a few friends with kids several years older than mine. For years I felt weird because I wasn't a mom and didn't have a clue what they were going through. But once I had kids and made some new friends, I realized that we were all in the same time in our lives so it didn't matter if I was 31, and someone else was 26, and someone else was 40. We all had something in common - we were moms together.
2007-11-02 15:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Niki323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't busy yourself comparing yourself to other people. I am sure that you are fine - you're your child's parent! I got married late in life and became a parent late. I am a lot older than most parents and they look so much more confident than me, but I console myself with the knowledge that that is the confidence of inexperience of life!
2007-11-02 22:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like you're a good parent-you probably are and they can see that also. I would like to have more friends that care like you-they're hard to find.
2007-11-02 21:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by wildhorsesrunfree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk with them don't think about their age think about their personality. Better yet watch your son interact with the other boys/girls in his play group!
2007-11-02 21:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get marries to your kid's dad.
2007-11-02 21:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋