If you have one or if you did have one. What Advice would you give? would it be different for a boy or girl?
2007-11-02 13:50:23 · 14 answers · asked by dire_st 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I told him (when he was a teenager) that our Creator's design and plan is perfect. His design and plan is that we enjoy sex inside the context of marriage in a monogamous relationship. The benefits are many, among which is the absence of STDs.
Sex involves not only a physical union, but a spiritual one as well. Whether we acknowledge the spiritual union or not makes no difference. It's still true. When we have multiple sexual encounters, our soul is fractured and fragmented, resulting in a number of emotional and mental upheavals.
When a man and wife enjoy both types of togetherness, it's far better than anything that can be had from promiscuous or indiscriminate sex. I told him that our Creator never intended for life, or any part of life, to be our god. Our bodies make wonderful masters but terrible servants. If we acquiesce to our lower nature, giving in to its base desires, our bodies will always lead us to places where we never want to be. Our bodies then become our masters. Our Creator's design and plan allows for complete freedom within broad boundaries. Those boundaries were not intended to keep us from things that are good and desirable. Instead, they were intended to protect us from things that would harm or even kill us.
2007-11-05 16:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Carl S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Advise them against it and give them information about safe sex just in case they do it. It never hurts to put a female on birth control. It helps prevent pregnancy and it also gives them control over their periods. Both males and females need to know all the consequences of having sex so find some information to show them what people with STD's live like. Let them know that 1 sex act could ruin their lives. Also, show them what it's like being a teenage parent. A lot of people learn from actually seeing other people's mistakes. Also, tell them that you are there for them if they do decide to have sex so they know they can talk to you. Offer them condoms, etc... but most of all teach them the current and future rewards for abstinence.
2007-11-02 20:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Kym♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a certain extent it would be different for a boy and girl. For both sexes I would explain that sex isn't something you rush into and if you have religious values I would explain the point that sex before marriage is wrong. That intercourse should only be done when you're married because it is a special bond between a husband and wife and that is how they express their love for one another. I would also express the consequences of sex such as pregnancy and STDs. Hope this helps.
2007-11-02 20:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. Use protection. Do not get anybody pregnant or you will have to pay for the kid for the rest of your life, and its not worth it Son, you have a ton of living to do before you settld down to an 8 hour a day, 5 day a week, 50 week a year job for the rest of your life. Wear a rubber. Don't do it inside, if I can be indirect. Take matters in your own hand, keep your libido well satisfied, tamed, low in energy so it can't control you and make you do anything stupid. Enjoy porn a lot, and often because you do want to keep that libidinal energy low.
2007-11-02 20:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teens these days look at sex way to causally. You should tell them that is an expression of love. Wait until you known the person. It does not equal love or respect. it only expresses feels you already have. Most importantly, be safe, condoms are not 100%.
2007-11-02 21:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by michelle_from_hell01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advic would be the same for both , wait until you're sure , don't do it when you're drunk or high(and as my kids they shouldn't be in the first place) and most importantly if the hormones kick into overdrive and overpower everything else
make sure you are protected against stds as much as possible
2007-11-02 20:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by banjaxed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell your teen child about sex or plan on being a grand parent. take them aside and tell them all about it. be prepared they probably already know all about sex and will seem board or like "i cant believe you are doing this". do it any way and if they are older than 13 you are late in doing this. tell them all about sex and what is out there like gay lesbian condoms safe sex and substaining from it
2007-11-02 20:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by gdboyer119 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on if you're a mother or a father, or more importantly, if you believe in the double-standard. My mother would forbid it, my father would encourage it.
2007-11-02 20:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sumewon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i wouldn't say anything...The teachers give us an uncomfertable lecture about that kinda stuff every day...
2007-11-02 20:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go out and have sex, nothing bad happens from sex.
2007-11-02 20:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by McLovin 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋