During our half year dating, he said he wanted a life with me but also tried to meet other girls from internet. I broke up with him immediately and he felt aweful. He didnt aske me to take him back but he said he was sincerely commited to our relationship, but bcos of the problem of our relationship he was still looking, he was very sorry for what he did and he said he loves me.
I think he is a liar and a player, so I told him Im pregnant and I want him to know whats like to be lied to.
Out of my expectation, he said he would be completely involved if I decide to keep the baby, he also wants to give it another shot for our relationship(he isnt against abortion). He said even our relationship has problems, he thinks its gonna work out. and he will be there as much as I want him.
Now I feel very guilty, I didnt expect him to act like that, b4 he told me he doesnt want a baby now. when I asked him, he said theres a difference between not wanting a baby and wanting to give one up.
2007-11-02 13:49:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your lies to him are just as bad, maybe worse, as his lies to you. You need to tell him the truth, say you are sorry then move on with your life. I guarantee that he is not going to want to repair the relationship after this.
Good Luck
2007-11-02 13:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-05 22:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs do not make a right. Your just as guilty as he is now. And that is most definitely not the way to fix a relationship or make someone feel bad by saying your pregnant. My advice to you is to tell him the truth immediately and tell him why you lied. Maybe he will understand maybe he will never talk to you but you have to step up to the plate and be truthful. The thought of knowing how you felt when he lied to you should have promted you not to want to make someone feel that way. I know you were probably acting out of hurt and scorn, but it isn't fair to play with someones emotions like that. And remember you had a choice to walk away completely from him.
2007-11-02 14:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth that you lied to him. It was wrong. His cheating was wrong as well. Then you might fight, argue, and eventually get back together. Possibly, marriage and divorce. Why get back together with a guy who feels guilty over a baby commitment? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Marriage b/c of a baby can lead a broken home in the future.
2007-11-02 13:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Eric S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to tell him the truth.
After that you need to dump him already. He is not good for you and your immaturity suggests you are not ready for a serious relationship yet.
Work on yourself. Become a strong, mature woman who knows how to pick out a man who will treat you right. Then find that man and settle for nothing but the best. You are beautiful and you deserve the best.
Good luck.
2007-11-02 13:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was one whopper of a lie hon. Trust me, your best thing to do, would be to just walk away. You both wronged each other. He played you, you lied, you're even. Chalk this up as a learning experience and find someone who appreciates you enough so that you aren't doing this again in the future.
2007-11-02 14:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its bad to say but i did the same i was immature then, then i had a period and told him i miss carried.
yea that sucked but man lol i felt guilty now i dont even think about it. I was immature and i did get away with it.
but you lied for a reason for a responce, you got one and it was one of love, when you obviosly thought it would be negative. do yourself a favor before karma does. be honest.
2007-11-02 14:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth and explain to him why you lied and how you felt. Think about if you were in his shoes and you thought you were going to be a parent though, so be prepared just in case he gets angry. If he really wants to try and fix things, he will manage to get over this and forgive you.
2007-11-02 13:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by krissyylovesya 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
OK...you shouldn't have lied. babies aren't the "fix-all" either. however, since he did express what he did to you, there may be a chance for long lasting between you both, you just need to tell him the truth and start from there
blessings
2007-11-02 13:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you got yourself into a real pickle and it sounds like you have some growing up to do....sorry
Time to be an adult and be honest with the man and hope he forgives you but, I wouldn't bet any money on it....
2007-11-02 13:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋