Why i cant have a real friends.?

Question

I feel so lonely because i dont have friend.Everybody dislike me.I dont know why they do that to me.It seems i cant find a nice friend.When i was in high school I feel they just like me because Im always giving a blowout with my group mate Its like i have to buy them to be around with me.Even when i was colleges.it seems they always want is money.Keep borrowing money from me.They dont even remember to pay me back If i dont let them barrow from me.I'm scared that they will dislike me and now i am in United states.I tried to find another friend here but it seems people here do not trust each other and they even got scared of me.I guess im asian.I dont know how to have a friend to stay with me for better and for worse..I guess the person likes me is my mother only.
Since im young i have trouble finding a nice friend.My husband is very nice to me.Only i cant find a nice person to be my friend.Please tell me guys how can i have a nice friend.Why its so hard for me to have a friend?

Thanks a llots to all your advice I really appreciate it.

Answer 1

I'm Asian and it isn't hard to find a good friend in America..I was born here (were you) even if not or are; what kind of friend are you talking about since you are ask the guys why you can't find a friend like a lover or a girl but as a good friend?
Well whatever it is that you are looking for be strong but nice (not too nice where you let them borrow money from you even though you have only know them for a day, week, month, or year). Letting a friend borrow money isn't easy to do, but if they are a good, close, and someone you can trust then yeah. If not, then don't be afraid to say I'm sorry but I'm running low with my money (lie if you have to). If they get mad at you then they are not a good friend okay..Good luck

Answer 2

Mix around with the geeks or the ones that have less friends.
Trust me, they are wayyyyyyyyyy better than those rich, spoilt and pampered brats. The 'friends' that kept borrowing money from you aren't actually your true friends.
True friends go through thick and thin with you, I'm Asian too but I don't live in the United States.
I see different kinds of people in my school and I usually mix around with the geeks as they actually know how to treat a friend, many popular kids have actually tried to hang around with me, but I don't go hang around with them as I know they just want to hang around with me because of some things.
Try and find someone that has common interest with you too, that may help.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I suspect some of the reason is that you lack confidence in yourself. You need to do things to make you feel better about yourself - I will give you a link to the book asamanthinketh and you can download that and read it, and many of us, including me will be friends with you online if you click on our avatures and then where it says to send us mail. there are some groups online as well where you can make friends as well and then it becomes easier to make friends in real life.
I will give you also a link to our site, EWE, which is everydaywomeneverywhere, and if you register there you can have friends in California, Michigan, New York, Nova Scotia, Canada and even Rio De Janero, in Brazil.
Just do things to raise your self esteem and try doing things where you will meet people and you will find friends.Good Luck to you!!

Answer 4

okay, well first about the people who takes ur money...THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS....friends don't do that, if they take your money, friends will pay back. well, next you have to talk to people, introduce yourself, don't be scared, and shy and just huddle in the dark corner. you have to stand out and show who you are. When you get friends, spend time with them, whats the point of friends if u don't spend time with them? your friends want to spend time with you, but if u don't, they won't want to be your friend anymore because they wil think ur boring. good luck ^^

Answer 5

hey im asian too! but a little younger than you...if it is difficult to find a friend, i would be your friend! or, you can smile to people and try saying a compliment like, "oh my gosh! i love those shoes! they totally suit you!" or something like that...they'll be appriciated and they'll talk to you. Good luck!