Well, me and my boyfriend, were confirmed by a dr. 3 weeks ago, that I am pregnant with our first child together. We are both very excited. But the thing is, I (not him) worry about society, since I'm Asian and he's black. My mom is ok with it, and so is his mother. The rest of MY family don't have a problem with him, but, the fact of being pregnant by him, is sort of a problem, the same with his. My best friend is black (well her mom is, her dad is Cuban), she is over the moon, and she told me not to worry about society, just be happy, and don't worry about the stares and comments, but for some reason I can't. Does anyone have any advice about how to get over other people's reactions?
2007-11-02 13:46:40 · 9 answers · asked by Jen Jen 21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are correct in saying that society can be harsh in judgement of bi-racial families, however as the times change and it becomes more common society is becoming more accepting. You will just have to stay close to those who care about you and live your life with your family. Be happy and don't let societies closeminded opinions get in the way of a happy life for you and your future family.
Congrats on the baby!
2007-11-02 13:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by >Jess< 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is right : ) Going through life being any race is difficult. You figure, some blacks don't like whites, some whites don't like blacks, some other race doesn't like another race, etc... there is always someone out there trying to place judgement on someone else. But, who cares... You are you and just like them you wake up every day, eat breakfast, brush your teeth, etc... I am multi-racial and growing up there was always someone saying something here and there. Some blacks saying I was too light and calling me a white girl, some whites saying racist remarks, but I learned to love me and not to stress myself with their worries. I was married to a black man years ago and I heard people saying things, now I am married to a white man and some people may be offended by it (I am light skinned) but who cares, he makes me happy and that's what matters. You have to worrry about you, your man, and your baby. If you are happy and your man is happy, then your baby will be happy. Stop trying to please everyone else and start pleasing yourself. Congrats on the pregnancy, enjoy it because when it is over, you'll miss it.
2007-11-02 13:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by sincere087 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are easily influenced by other people's opinion you will have a hard time with this issue. The key is you have to be delivered from what other people think. How much confidence and value do you have in yourself and your boyfriend. If you do, you should have the same value and worth in this child who is about to be born. You have to change your perception about your child to be born and let his existence out weigh what people think. I too am black and am about to marry a woman from Thailand.
2007-11-02 14:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by super saiyan 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore people that make comments about that. it does not matter what race u are it only counts if u love each other.
And my mom is Spanish and my dad is Chinese. I dont get teased or made fun of , somebeople actually think it is very cool to have two diffrent races.
2007-11-02 14:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ma-Li-Ahh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!!! - My family have several inter-marriages with children who are just beautiful. I don't think that old feeling about mixed race exists any more As long as there is love in the family and friends you can overcome anything. Enjoy and love your baby and don't think about what others might think.
2007-11-02 14:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by misajaca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore people. As long as you and your boyfriend are happy, nothing else should matter. I'm 15 and my dad is Black and my mom is white, and I am fine!
2007-11-02 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Nichole[never gives up]♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life so live it how you want to. Let others stare and make rude comments all they want, but dont let them tear you two apart...plus, its none of their business. I'm black (African descent) and my boyfriend is half-black and half-white but people assume he's just white and they look at us weird too, but we ignore them because we're not in it for them, but for us.
2007-11-02 13:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Philly_Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares?! You're happy, and he's happy. Enjoy, love, and live your life.
2007-11-02 13:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who gives a rat's *** of what society thinks!!
2007-11-02 13:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋