Okay well, today my friend told me and another girl that she was bi. The other girl is having a hard time with it and is somewhat disgusted. Now the girl who said she was bi is really upset because the girl is having a hard. Time. I didn't know that u could come out so early. She is only in 7th grade. Do you think she is serious or is it just something that she will grow out of? If she is serious I want to be supportive of her. She told the other girl that she think we are hot but I'm straight. How do I let her know that I'm supportive of her no matter what she does.
2007-11-02 12:38:23 · 10 answers · asked by wwefan1324 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She is probably very serious. She may even be entirely lesbian, but scared to death to come completely out of the closet because people will react as the other girl reacted. Just tell her how you feel about it! Tell her you want to support her & be there for her.
I too came out at about that same time. I know I was scared to death, to the point where I didn't eat or sleep for days on end, and that didn't go away for MONTHS. I actually contemplated suicide (and very seriously, I might add).
Just tell her how you feel. Tell her what you posted here. Also, it is OK to ask her questions about it.
2007-11-02 13:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen I have tons of gay and Bi-friends she WONT grow out of it
but be there for her its hard for them to come out bout there sexuality just say"I'm here for ya all the way"
most gays and Bi's when there little even as 4 or 5 year olds just know there diffrent in some way
it can come that early sometimes earlier
but even if she does think your hot so what woohoo doesnt mean shes gonna try to go out with you
if she does try just tell her kindly
Sorry but I'm really not like that I'm sorry
they will understand most of them do well theres your answer
and your friend shouldnt be disgusted but its her opinion
Gay and Bisexual's are human people they just like the same sex or well lol BOTH but just be there for her ok
2007-11-02 14:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by ~SugarMamma~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's a phase, sometimes it's not. As some here already know, what I always say is that: some are straight until they're not. Some are gay until they're not. Some are bisexual until they're not.
Good choice, and you're a good friend. Whether it's a phase that she can grow out of or not, you've decided to be supportive of her and I applaud you for that! Just be there for her, that's the best thing you can offer her. Take care! ;)
2007-11-02 12:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by J. McCoy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say it exactly as you said it here "I'm supportive of you no matter what" It's good that you're so open at such a young age... a lot of young people would stop talking to their friend because of that. I have had several bi-sexual, lesbian and gay friends, and a lot of times when they came out they lost their best friends because their friends just couldn't deal with it.
2007-11-02 12:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very simple. You can always say "I'm flattered that you think I'm hot." "And I do appreciate our friendship, but I am not interested in anything more than just a friendship." This way, she will not feel uncomfortable and neither will you. As long as you both know the boudaries of the relationship.
2007-11-02 13:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by L.A. H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well at my school (middle school) theres so me bi's and lesbians
and well some might realy be seriouse like ive seen this girl she is bi and i saw her kiss a girl and kiss my friend (boy) so has she ever kissed a girl?because if she has she might i mean i know a 6th grader that is transexual
2007-11-02 12:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by »Stalker«® 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell its cool w you , and then change the subject . the other girl will either adjust to the news or find some other friends .
2007-11-02 14:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the other friend sounds immature, just lets her know she has got you and you never know this so called anti-bisexual friend may come out years later...normally the case
2007-11-02 12:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your a good friend..
i hate homophobes and biphobes, i mean DOES IT REALLY MATTER IF YOU ARE GAY , BI OR STRIAGHT???
2007-11-02 12:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a hug and tell her that you will there for her.
2007-11-02 12:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by sparkles 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋