Child cutody evaluation consisted of Three sessions for me and Three sessions for my husband. I thought we were done. Or at least this is what the doctor said the last time we spoke.
Today the doctor called me from home and asked me if I would call his office on monday and set up another appointment for me to come see him again. Then he asked me how was everything going with our living situation. I said not very good. I told him about my husband going out on saturday night and coming home drunk. He said, Yeah, Just call my office on monday. I wouldnt want to miss out on anymore information that may be beneficial to you.
What do you Ladies think?
Do you think the evaluator is on my husbands side and just out of kindness of his heart giving me another chance to defend myself???
2007-11-02 11:36:11 · 4 answers · asked by Bambi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gosh, this sucks that you have to go through the entire weekend worried about this. I feel your pain. Since he said he wants to make sure he does not miss out on anything that may be beneficial to you then he may just want further information from you regarding this case to make an educated and informed decision. Ya know? Doyou have his home number? It may not hurt to call him back and just tell him that his phone call stressed you out and you just want to ask him what his intentions are so you can sleep and not stay up worrying yourself to death. He is a custody evaluator. He has to understand that when it comes to your children and cases like this that you are already under so much stress and he doesn't need to put more on you by calling you on Friday and making you wait all weekend to talk to him. How do you know your husband came home drunk Saturday? Do you 2 still live together? I wish I had more info on this situation. You guys are obviously battling for custody. Be very careful in your choice of words. If you look like a disgruntled wife then it will be difficult for the evaluator to take your words to heart. He may see your motives as revenge against your husband instead of the best interest for your kids. Just be careful and ONLY discuss your concerns about your children. Let him know that you could careless what your husband does AS LONG AS HE IS NOT PUTTING YOUR KIDS IN JEOPARDY with his behavior. Ya know? If his number is on your caller ID then consider calling him back...depending on the kind of relationship you have established with this evaluator. Good luck. I wish you the best.
2007-11-02 11:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by whatshername 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The evaluator must remain impartial to all involved or lose his status with the court which is not good. It sounds like your husband brought up some last minute allegations against you and hes both letting you know of whats going on and a chance to answer to these new allegations. To me your husband is starting to feel like hes losing so hes going to try some new desperate allegations to make you look bad. In that cas I think the evaluator is going the extra step in letting you know like any court would require him to do. You have nothing to worry about here. I have never heard of these evaluators since mjority of the divorce courts will award custody automaticlly to the mother unless she is ruled unft by child or drug/mental abuse with solid evidence
2007-11-02 12:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be getting ready to tell you to throw this guy out and how to go about it. He would not have said the information would be beneficial to you otherwise. I suspect that he may be getting information ready to give you options as to where to go from there. I think if he thought the marriage could be saved he would have had the two of you together for counseling but to have you each separate he got more of an idea of whether to have the joint counseling. I wouldn't worry about Monday at all.
2007-11-02 11:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE! DON'T TRUST HIM
2007-11-02 12:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋