earlier he give a lot of pleasure to me by fulfilling my sex needs, nw after 3 years his intrst decreases, v hv nt yet planned fr a baby, n v r living alone. i smtime tld him that i need sex he use to ignore that, i knw he is very very busy in his work but i m suffering,,,,,,, he luvs me a lot n try to make me happy but i want sex.he dnt have any other extra maritail affair also. what shud i do
2007-11-02 11:23:37 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This kind of question is hard to find an answer for on Yahoo! Answers, because relationships are so complicated and intricate. But in general, the decrease of sex in a long term relationship is somewhat normal, once a couple is out of the "newlywed phase." However, you seem to be describing a severe decrease in sex and maybe even a sexless marriage. The solution to your problem isn't more sex. More sex will come when you and your husband fix whatever is wrong with your relationship.
Sorry if this doesn't help you much, but relationship issues like this really need the attention of a prefessional counselor and a lot of time and effort by you and your husband to work out.
I wish you the best and I believe in the amazing capacity of human beings to love and sacrifice for one anaother, so I know that you and your husband can succeed. Never give up hope.
2007-11-05 07:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you have completely ruled out an affair, he might just have a fatal case of boredom and stress. Shake things up for him. Plan a dinner out on the town without any cell phones, or contact devices so nobody will bother you. Wear a really sexy, but tasteful dress with no panties. Over dinner let him know how much you miss his body and slip in the no panties part in passing. It'll make his ears and other parts do a double take. All that aside, try to have more skin to skin contact throughout the day. Kissing is an intimate way to make contact, so is holding hands. My husband likes to randomly grab or lightly smack my butt when we're at home. I always see it coming, but it is still exciting!
2007-11-02 11:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lost in Translation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep masturbating for the time being and try to get him to go into counseling with you (masturbating will keep the edge off). A relationship is suppose to be give and take. I'm sure he has some other issues he needs to work through or have pointed out to him. Thus counseling! Best of luck to the both of you.
2007-11-02 11:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women demanding sex puts a lot of pressure on the guy to "perform" and if he is busy at work he doesn't have a lot of energy so - do you get on top? You do the work and let him just lay there. It may help. I agree with the others who said to quit the short cuts and type out your jibberist and use spell check.
2016-04-02 01:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling, sex won't take more then a maximum time of 30mins... apart from the nice steady ones!!
you can try this, look after yourself more by buying all new matching sets of under wear that whenever you get undresses you can catch his attention to the new you...
try kissing him more in a sexy way... try going out for spa as to feel more relax and make him get turned to you more (i personally did try it and it worked)...
and most importantly, don't push yourselves to have sex for the sake of a baby, because you 2 will never enjoy it
2007-11-02 11:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by great woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud giv me a call. I wud be glad to fulfill your desires. Luv to luv u baby
2007-11-02 11:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having problems understanding your sentences...are you typing in shorthand?
What I would do is communicate this with him. He should be your partner and best friend. Confide in him and tell him how you feel. If there are deeper issues, seek counseling.
2007-11-02 11:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you confront your husband. and tell him your seriously frustrated. it quite clear your husband is working very hard. to hard. you both need to sit down and sort your life out. tell him your very unhappy. and are life style as got to change. or else. i wish you well. good luck.
2007-11-02 11:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i know you don't want to hear this, as much as he loves you, he May be getting it from someone else. harsh truth cuz it happened to me. with a bf of course. get kinky when he's home. tie him down and say, "we're doing it my way, and we're doing it now!"
2007-11-02 11:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by young and n love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the pressure of by having fun together. plays games, go on dates, drink together, dance together.
Once he remembers how sexy and fun you are, he'll jump you
2007-11-02 11:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋