can I be healed?

Question

I'm like the second kind of humans. I was raped for years by my dad and now I'm behaving completely different than usually people would. is it normal that I'm always depressed and having nightmares about the rapes that happened? every day like this? I've been to therapists but they dont help anything. so this is how my life will be? I will go to bed and when I'll sleep I'll get nightmares? this isnt normal!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think I'm gonna blow up this life.

is there anything that would heal me? any hypnotherapies? some magic pill? cause usual talking therapies arent working. I'm going worse.

all other people are so happy and they can live normal lives, they wont have any problems having sex. what about me? I'm scared of touching. this isnt normal. I'm totally gonna screw up.

Answer 1

You survived, and while I cannot comfort you with a personal experience, I think the best thing to do is to transition from a victim mentality to a that of a survivor. You were obviously strong enough to still be here today, look for that strength again. There is no easy way to overcome traumatic events, and I know it is easy for any of us to tell you that you can, but the rediscovery of your courage and strength is not going to be an answer away, but something that is necessary for you to find again. I hope you find your answer here, but there is not just one type of cure or healing process. Meanwhile, I suggest trying to find songs to relate to such as "Damaged" by Plumb, anything to make you realize that you're not going through this alone.

Answer 2

Now I help people from time to time that have been hurt in such a manner as you have. And the hardest thing to do is get good help. Every person has a different need. There will never be a cure all. Sorry to say that.
You need to have a group of friends that you can talk to. venting the pain is a start.

You need a place that you can feel safe from any future attacks.

You need a time to cry and vent out the pain . Perferabley with a friend near by. But alone at first if you have a hard time talking in person about the pains.

You need to find a way to vent out the anger. And it is alright to be angry. Be pissed off at the world and then focus the anger at the person that hurt you. Make sure this release is non harmful to you or others. A self-defense class is a good way to physically vent out the anger. If you can't afford the classes. You can go to any toy store and get a little boys bop-it blow up bag. Tape a picture of the person that angered you and hit it whenever you feel angry.

Finally , this is going to take a long time. Many people go through years of greif over this. What I would also suggest to you is to get a notebook and find a safe place to keep it. As you grieve and have mood swings over rapes write down how you are feeling and what you want to do. NEVER let anyone read this notebook. It is for you and you alone. This will help in the releasing of stress and you can look at the past and learn from it. When you are done grieving.... burn it. When you burn it you will be shedding the last shreds of the pain that you went through.

I hope that this helps you.

Answer 3

It is absolutely normal that you would react like this. Firstly you have to realize that you are the normal person that has been the victim of someone who is abnormal. What has happened to you is separate from you. You need to realize that although these things were done to you, they are removed from you as a person. You, yourself are a unique and wonderful person and you can be a survivor, not a victim. When you have these nightmares, or memories - can you picture yourself putting the bad events into a trunk, locking the key and throwing the trunk into the deepest part of the ocean. If you can continue doing this each time it may help. I used this method for something, not as traumatic as you have experienced, but one that was affecting me in the same way. When you feel like "blowing up this life" - again a very normal reaction, do you have one of those helplines in your country that you can ring? We have Lifeline here, and it has helped me through many occasions when I just needed to talk to someone at a time when I couldn't cope.

Answer 4

I don't mean this rudely, but no one can help you but yourself. You have to make up your mind that you will not let your dad and what he did ruin the rest of your life like he did the first part of it. Then, refuse to let thoughts of the abuse and depression occupy your thoughts. Do this by scheduling a time each day to think about it and feel sorry for yourself. For example, from 7:00 to 7:30 will be your time to think about it, cry, scream, talk about it, write about it, whatever. If you start thinking about it at other times, tell yourself to stop, then picture yourself putting the thoughts in a box in your head and locking the box until 7:00. Open the box at 7 and lock it back at 7:30. This sounds ridiculous, but I promise it works. It does take practice. Once you get good at this, the nightmares will stop and you will get on with your life. Good luck!!!!!!

Answer 5

The humans's religion. Christ did not want religion for that, simply as a little one, after he has discovered how one can stroll, does not want religion for his steps anymore. He demands religion just for matters He hasn't performed, and isn't certain approximately, however trusts in His Father to take in the slack. Trust is a kind of religion. Christ had advantage, or the Healing Force that He had given to Him and through studying how one can construct up. By the time he was once approximately completed with His ministry, he did not seem the identical. He appeared ancient, and spent, in 3 years of giving of this advantage. The humans round Him have been benefited through His presence. The twelve had such "Force," simply by being in His presence always. They might do something. He informed His twelve that they could do even bigger matters than He did, as He needed to go away quickly. he desired to go away! He was once like Hercules, conserving up the arena.

Answer 6

Trauma survivors are often helped by EMDR. Others are helped by seeking legal judgments. Some by both. Not all therapists are helpful or skilled at dealing with the complexities of incest. Keep looking for specialists. Incest can be a difficult subject for lay people or generalists to handle.

Follow the link on Wikipedia to find a good description of this therapy.

Your statement, "I think I'm gonna blow up this life." sounds suicidal. Suicide is not a solution.
You deserve support and justice.Your life sounds really tough now. I hope you are helped.

Answer 7

I'm very sorry about your history. Don't give up. Keep trying. Eventually you will find a therapist who will help you. I would seek help with your anxiety and then maybe it will eventually heal your Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. No therapist can help all people; you have to find the right match. In the meantime, go to www.anxietycoach.com. You might find some relief there.
But to answer your question it is normal to have your experiences with your history. I treat someone with a similar problem and she cannot stop the nightmares and dreams either, but we are trying to work on her anxiety reactions which seems to help.

Answer 8

Change residence, a place where you will find peace and consolation. Read spiritual books, so as you will learn to understand and forgive yourself and your dad. Be with friends who a positive thinkers and savor their company. Do not involve yet to boy-girl relationship, it will take you sometime to be ready.

Answer 9

God can take away the pain - Joyce Meyer is a very popular lady who has a very large ministry to ladies-Christian - and she was abused when she was young. If God did it for her, he can do it for you also....