and my husband has been dropping hints that i need to lose some weight but mind you that when we first married he was the one overweight he says my weight is not a problem to him but all the clothes he buys me are to little and he has offered me a membership to the local gym should I be upset or could I just be overdoing it.
2007-11-02 10:43:52 · 21 answers · asked by shirkeya s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if he is dropping hints that is better than what some husbands do. Some husbands are blatantly mean and rude when their wives gain weight. And I am so jealous of you that your husband even attempts to buy you clothes. That is so sweet. Do you have any idea how many women would love it if their husbands were as attentive to them as yours sounds like he is to you. I think you would enjoy the gym membership. It is something that the 2 of you can do together and you can lose some weight at the same time. It is a win win situation. I, too, have put on some weight since getting married. My husband sees that I am bothered by it so he tries to help me figure out ways to lose weight. We converted our garage into a gym. He has bought me workout equipment and cardio machines. The best way I have found to lose weight is walking. Walking 30 minutes a day will make the weight fall off, of course, in conjunction to watching what you eat. Ask your hubby to go on walks with you in the evenings. This could be a positive thing for you and your marriage. Spending time together and losing weight at the same time is a win win situation. Good luck.
2007-11-02 10:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by whatshername 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's 5-10 lbs or post childbirth weight then he needs to get a grip. But if your weight gain is more than that, then there is a problem and it's not him. If it were my hubby offering a gym membership, I'd be there daily!!!!
Seriously -- in 21 years of marriage I gained 60 very unhealthy pounds, and have lost 23 lbs this year by dieting and exercising every chance I get (which is slow going because I have COPD from back when I used to smoke). Those extra pounds put us women at risk of stroke and heart attacks (and if you're having children, chances of crippling stroke and heart attacks during delivery go way UP if we're overweight or obese); it puts us at higher risk of breast, ovarian, uterine and pancreatic cancers as well as type II diabetes.
The other thing weight puts us at risk of is a marriage with no sex because we don't look that hot overweight and you know guys "eat" with their eyes first! Most guys are not BBW fetishists. A celibate marriage is not fun for a woman to endure.
2007-11-02 11:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said you have put on some weight which means you are letting yourself go and most men don't want that. Why not take him up on the membership and get in shape? We women can not let ourselves go and then whine when hubby starts looking at smaller women. So if you choose to keep doing what you are now, how are you going to feel? Will you be fine when you look up and you've gained 100 pounds? Will he? Marriage is a partnership and your partner is trying to help. Just think how good it's going to feel when he buys you something and it's too big, you get back to the sexy woman he married.
2007-11-02 11:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Married Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if he will stray or now not. He is being a jerk. After 10 years of marriage so long as you are healthful and preserving up with your self, he will have to love you unconditionally. Calling you obese isn't ok. Talk to him and inform him the way it makes you believe. Hopefully he cares extra approximately your emotions than the truth that you are now not a stick determine. And if now not, probably it is time so that you can transfer on. Also, does he seem precisely the identical as he did 10 years in the past? I doubt it.
2016-09-05 08:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't like the extra weight. I would maybe start working out with him, and if you want the gym membership then go for it. But if you're not going to use it don't waste the money.
2007-11-02 11:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are overweight, you should lose a few pounds...for yourself and your health.
Hell yes, I would use the gym membership if I were you! For some people, paying to go and work out provides motivation.
Good luck girl!
2007-11-02 10:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want to loose some weight? It doesn't matter that he was overweight when you got married - what matters is you were not and now you are - meaning you are letting yourself go...that is not good!
Use the gym membership and try...you might even enjoy it!
2007-11-02 10:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Me 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
grab the membership& run with it.me& my husband had 5 kids & i had put on alot of weight. i started walking& going to a gym& went on the adkinsdiet. i lost 100 pounds& gained a new self confidence,grew my hair out& started getting attention from other men then, my hubby started going to the gym with me, he also, lost 50 pounds& we both look great.good luck girl& hang in there you can do it, go for it.
2007-11-02 11:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most people hit the nail on the head. You and your husband owe it to each other to be healthy. And there is nothing wrong with a little suggestion from your partner. If he didn't care about you, he would be directing his attention somewhere (i.e. someone) else. That he is making suggestions shows he cares about you and your relationship.
Take him up on the offer and do it together.
2007-11-02 11:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Hammer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We beat ourselves up enough we don't need someone else hinting or telling us we need to lose weight especially our husbands.People act like we don't realize what we look like so they think they need to tell us. Your husband just wants to help you,i know with me i just want my husband to leave me alone about it i know what i have to do to lose the weight.
2007-11-02 13:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋