she has been my best since grade school but i hate her new hubby they have been 2 gether for a yr now. hes a drunk and talks too much crap
2007-11-02 10:24:30 · 18 answers · asked by realgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are her friend - so if she is happy let her be happy! As long as he doesn't mis treat her - stay out of it!
Hang out with her when he is not around - but don't tell her that you don't like him - that would cause her more stress than necessary! It is her choice who she wants to live with - not yours!
2007-11-02 10:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear of him, don't tell her your feeling's cause this will only put a hole in your releshoinship, and push her away from you, but be supportive and trust me she will come running to you first when they have problems or she dumps him or the other way around, if you tell her you hate him, then she will feel like she has to take sides, and if she comes running to you if they fight don't voice your feeling even then, just let her know you will support her what ever she decided cause if they get back together or make up she will remeber your feeling's and alienate you, I went through the same thing, and you just have to keep being her friend, and not worry about her man, cause it was her choice not yours and she is a big girl and will handle her life how she feels is right for her, nobody wants to hear they screwed up or that you hate someone she loves, she will feel like she is caught in the middle, and this will only put added stress on her, so, like I said the best thing for you to do, is ignor the hubby, and try to be around when he is not and gone when he is, and just be her friend and love her and be there for her as a friend, she will thank you all the more for it!
2007-11-02 10:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by leah j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful he is not your husband and just stay out of there marriage. Yes she is a good friend but really you have no reason to get involved with her personal life. I think just spend time with her and if she wants you to do something with her and the hubby tell her you are busy.
2007-11-02 10:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suck it up. He's not your hubby and if she's happy then be happy FOR HER. You don't have to like him, she didn't get approval from you. Just be happy when you're around them. Maybe tell her why you don't really like him and she might understand and try to hang out with just you. That's a tough situation, but you have to remember you have to respect him whether you're thrilled with him or not. It's not your marriage....but it's your best friend. Support her.
2007-11-02 11:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd call your hubbys pal and make an apology.. clarify it wasn't your husbands fault, he instructed you issues in self assurance and you acquire hammered and blurted all of them out. It happens.
2016-09-28 05:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by delsignore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She chose to hook up with and marry someone she knows is obnoxious and offensive to her friends. She should therefore be understanding that you want to spend less time with her if it means he is going to be around. That's what you will do, right? Or is it just that you're jealous of her giving attention to someone else?
2007-11-02 10:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing its her life . She must like it or she wouldn't be with him . Things change when you grow up between friends . Some times you just go your separate ways in life .
2007-11-02 10:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See her when he's not around!
Have her to lunch when he's working or go shopping early while he's hungover.
And hope she sees the light before too long!
2007-11-02 10:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your best friend, you need to accept her choice of partners. Just because he has no social skill, that doesn't mean that you can't.
2007-11-02 10:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do about her choice of husband; you can try and avoid hanging out with both of them, and just hang out with your friend.
2007-11-02 10:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋