So here it goes, my fiancee and i have been together for quite some time now, and just back in april, we decided to move in together, us 2 and my two children. Things were great in the beginning, like always, and slowly, things got worse by each day that passed. I got to know the "real" him, and i dont like it at all...however, i do love him, and i need some help with this. First, he is extremely messy, leaving snot rags everywhere for me to pick up, dirty plates on top of furniture, used q-tips on the countertops, and one time i even came home from work to a dirty paper plate with pizza crusts folded in half, tucked in between the fridge and counter...disgusting!! i spoke with him on numerous occasions about this, and nothing seems to work. On top of all this, he is addicted to the net,..messanger lists, chatting and i caught him chatting to this girl who had a naked pic with a phrase stating that "she loves to do role playing escpecially the role of little girls"..now whats so
2007-11-02 10:08:11 · 13 answers · asked by Nicole H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
disturbing about this is a few mnths back, i saw that he had child porno on his pc but he said he didn't know it was there and didn't know how it got on there in the first place...but it was 3 diff clips. Anyways, he lies, he cheats, he steals, and he is sooo sneaky, its pathetic. i know deserve better than this but i feel stuck b/c i don't have the means to get by on my own, my dad said i could stay with him but i know that if i do that, visitation w my son would cut big time since he smokes,...any advice, i just cant stand it any longer
2007-11-02 10:11:08 · update #1
Do what you no, has to be done. Sometimes in life you have to make sacrifices, that doesn't mean it has to set in stone.
2007-11-02 10:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out and fast. You didn't say who smokes, the bf or your dad but if it is your dad, get a smoke eater. If the kids are his file for support and that will help some. If the kids are from the bf, make sure that the visits are supervised - make a copy of the child porn on the computer if it is still on there so that you have that as evidence if need be in the future.
You may also be able to get some help from social services but the main thing is to get the kids away from him and look for someone more interested in you than porn on a computer. Good Luck to you!
2007-11-02 10:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry the snot rags thats just gross but really the stuff on his
computer and his chatrrom crap I would say red flag and find a way to get away from this guy fast. Do you really want to put your children in a situation that this guy could have pedophile urges?. Get out stay with your dad until you can find a stable living situation but really call it off and run.
Best Wishes and Good Luck!
2007-11-02 10:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get by before you met him? Are you really so desperate that you're willing to put your kids under the same roof with a person who gets off on child porn? Think about it. Do what you gotta do to get out of there (even if this means moving in with your dad for a while), and from then on, try not to rely on anyone else to provide for you - you, and only you, should be responsible for yourself and your kids.
2007-11-02 10:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on what you opt for to do. in case you ruin up, then no, i does not purchase him any presents. in spite of the undeniable fact that....I actual have a tale for you. while i became 20 i became relationship this lovable Sicilian guy who became 19. We had dated for 4 months yet desperate we've been greater beneficial acquaintances then the rest...he nevertheless went out and acquired me a Christmas angel - it became eye-catching!! i did no longer get him something and that i felt undesirable. Do what your heart tells you.
2016-11-10 02:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by deviny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your biggest warning sign is the whole "child porn" thing. How did it get on his PC if he didn't know it was there? You have kids, honey. If he's into child porn, there's a possibility that he could be into something else involving children. Leave before your children get hurt.
2007-11-02 10:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...he sounds like a real winner...take your dad up on his offer and get rid of this loser. I wouldn't have held on this long for such a scumball. Do yourself and your kids a favor and get out of this situation before it gets any worse and it starts afffecting your kids any more than it already has.
2007-11-02 10:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 99.9% figured it out. Sounds like a chimp could be cleaner than your man. You need someone who is not going to agravate you or make your life more difficult. LUCK
2007-11-02 10:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Respuesta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to move on. Do you really want to be stuck with a guy like this forever?
2007-11-02 10:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats the question- you have kids and he has child porn on his computer. If thats not reason enough to leave him what will it take?
2007-11-02 10:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by babybizzlesmom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋