why do I feel so alone....(please, i need ur opinions&advice)?

Question

I have friends, yet I feel so alone,a bit sad & a littlebit insicure...wat's the problem?
I think it's because I nvr can find a guy& wen I do im too scared 2tell them I like them because I dont want to risk losing them as a friend.
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I have friends& im not alone...but I still feel so alone, lonely...wats wrong?

Answer 1

Zoloft helps! chemical imbalances in the brain cause this!

Answer 2

I went through the same thing. I swear, it is only a little awkward phase.
Try to focus more on doing things you like and the way you feel when you do them. Stay away from your room; you don't want to be holed up in there for too long on the internet or whatever. Get out more with your friends.
I don't know how old you are, but I know that the same thing happened to me when I was 12-13 and I promise it'll pass in a while. Just stick it out. Suicide is not the answer!
And if you like a guy, just go for it. If you really, really like him, just tell him. There are two possible responses: rejection or acceptance. You'll either be embarrassed around him for a few days before things go back to normal, or you'll have a boyfriend. There's no point in living in silence.
There's nothing wrong with you. I think everyone goes through this stage. Things will pick up. I'm sorry. : )

Answer 3

Let me see if I can describe this feeling even more. Its kind of like an emptyness, you feel like there is just something missing. There is something that is just off beat in your life, but you just can't place your finger on it. You know that you need to do something, but you have no idea what it is that you need to do. Is that how you feel? It sounds to me like you are absolutely missing something in your life, but it isn't a boyfriend or more friends. I think it very well could be Jesus Christ. I may not know you or how old you are, but I do know that no matter who you are you absolutely should accept Jesus into your life as your Lord and Savior. Maybe you don't have any idea who Jesus is, and if that is the case then you should talk ot your pastor or a Christian friend about Him. Seriously, don't just shut me out and say that you don't want to just because you don't believe or you think that Christianity is stupid, but you never know until you research it. Come from a logical point of view. I don't know who you are or anything about you, but somehow I know exacally the way you are feeling. That is because that is the feeling you have when you don't have Jesus. Plus, if you don't ask someone to help explain who Jesus really is and what He did for you, then you aren't educated enough to make a decision on weather you want to believe or not. So just talk to your pastor about it or a Christian friend and hear them out. If you don't currently go to church or have a pastor, go to a church and ask someone there. If possible, go to a Calvary Chapel those are really good, Christian churches. What do you have to lose by just asking someone? It very well could solve this whole empty and lonly feeling you are having. Just give Jesus a chance.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are lonesome for someone, being lonely means having no one.. Like you said you have family and friends around. However, being lonesome for someone is different because you are missing the company of someone who you can cuddle with and be intimate with. When you are ready you will find that someone that is meant to be in your life. There is nothing wrong with being shy, but if you like someone eventually you will need to take a deep breath and get the courage to let them know you are interested or else some great people and opportunities will pass you by.
Your time will come, be patient.
Good Luck to you.. and remember you are never alone..

Answer 5

Well its difficult to give advice in this manner, because i know nothing of your bacground or life.
It is possible to feel alone even if you are surrounded by hundreds of friends, this is usually because an aspect of your life isn't being fullfilled and is empty.
You seem to think the missing part is a boyfriend,
If this is so, next time you really like someone, just open up and say so, life is so very short, and we only get a chance once.Doesn't matter if you lose their friendship, you yourself said you have lots of friends.
You could also be depressed, so thats another possibility, you sound young to me, so all this makes sense if this is so.
You have to believe in yourself, and love and respect who you are, if you don't do this, then no one else will either.
Next time opportunity knocks on your door, grab it girl!!!!

Answer 6

Well, I can definitely relate.
Only with me, the guys i like usually end up liking my friends instead..
its so annoying, like you have those people that get perfect grades, look perfect, have the perfect boyfriend, and everyone else wants them.
and the reason you feel alone is because no one understands you...you can go on all day to your friends telling them how horrible your life is, but they cant relate so they dont bother trying.
im not sure how to fix this problem...
but i try to focus on something else when im sad, like school or some activity or sport...idk
hope that helped

Answer 7

Guys aren't going to help matters but they can make problems worse in fact. The problem is how you feel inside. If you feel alone, I think you need to go out and do something fulfilling like volunteer work. Pay close attention to doing things for others. That would generate overall happiness. The more you focus on self, the more you'll focus on your problems and negative emotions, so get out there and help someone :)

Answer 8

I felt the same way when I was 17. I had a big group of friends, always hanging out and doing things. Even surrounded by all those people I still felt alone. It took me a bit of therapy to work through my problems. I guess my feelings had deep routes in family problems I had when I was much younger. I'd say talk to someone about your feelings. It helped me so much.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear you feel lonely.I guess if even you dont know,nobody could tell you.I guess the only advice is to just concentrate on what and who you do have.Seems like when you quit looking you find someone.But you bring up something ive always wondered about.You said you was scared to tell someone you liked them cause it would ruin your friendship.I've never understood that.I've had girls like me,and all it did was flatter me at the worst.Then we stayed friends.Unless after i didnt let them have me,they took a bad attitude toward me.Anyway good luck,and have a great day.Its the weekend,get with your friends and get crazy.wooohooo!!!!!! mark

Answer 10

you feel alone because you are feeling insecure and need a boost of self esteem. You probably see others around you with boy friends and think you should have one also but remember many of those who have boyfriends are having them only for the sake of having a boy friend. Work on building up your self esteem - I will give you a link to one good book for that, and once you have the self esteem you will be able to talk to those guys easier but you may find they come up to talk to you first.
Don't worry about getting a boy friend for the sake of having one but wait for the right one and even if you are lonely for a while it will be worth it when you find the right guy - or he finds you.

Answer 11

You just need to take a good look at your life and a good look in the mirror. If you have friends and family around you who love and honor you, then consider yourself very lucky! If you like the way you look and feel good about yourself, then don't feel shy about telling people how you really feel. You may or may not have a chance to tell that person the truth. You don't want to go through life always wondering "what if.." Good luck!