He left me twice for the same woman. They recently broke up. Should I take him back. Will relationship work this time?
2007-11-02 09:54:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
Do you really wonder how the 3rd time will go?
2007-11-02 09:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lanie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wake up woman! You need a good slap, how many times has this excuse for a man left you? For the same woman too, seems to me she has now had enough and he thinks second best (YOU) is better than nothing, cos that is what he has, a big fat nothing. Nothing to offer you other than what his fancy woman has chucked out. Where is your self respect? Do not even think of having this waste of space back in your life. Remember how you felt when you first found out he was cheating on you? Hold that feeling girl and enjoy slamming your door in his face. You deserve better than this!
2007-11-02 10:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really do you have a brain or where you late in the line up.
Tell him to go to hell. You need to get a life and find a new mate. This guy has cheated on you twice and left you for the same women twice. Really if you have any common sense you would tell him where to go and how to get there.
I think you still have feelings for this guy but come on he has wronged you twice and your still thinking of taking him back
if you do. You might as well get a tattoo on your forward that says SUCKER!.
Please for all human kind think of your life and your future this guy is scum!
2007-11-02 10:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not want to take your ex back again. If he has cheated on you twice with the same woman there should not be another chance. Find yourself another man who will treat you better and have respect for you.
2007-11-02 10:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously u still have feelings for your x or u wouldnt even be considering this.. my suggestion to you is that you take it slowly and make him prove that he really wants to be with you this time around by starting from the beginning.. taking u out on dates, etc.. if you just let him back in where you left off he'll leave u again when she decides she wants him back and ur only a security blanket for him .. but if you make him work for being with you, make him have to prove that this time its for real and he learned the mistake he made, ur marriage may actually stand a shot, but only if you make him prove to you that ur worth it this time around and not being his "go to person" just because he's scared of being alone.
2007-11-05 14:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make that mistake a third time seriously. He knows now he can continue to run all over you, and cheat with other women not just this one, and there will be more, he can continue to do that and come back to you and you will take him back, as he keeps running down your self-esteem and faith in men.
Be a strong woman and stand up for yourself, SAY NO!
Lets not forget we can forgive but never forget, it will always be there in your mind bugging you, haunting you, and continuously breaking your heart.
2007-11-02 10:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you hear what your saying. Of course he wants to come back, your a sure thing until something better comes along. He's proved that to you before. If you can't say no then you need to go to a therapist so you can get stronger and learn not to accept this kind of behavior. Your only enabling it and encouraging it by accepting it. You deserve better, but until you believe that you are only ever going to be treated badly. I have a saying: No man is worth your tears and one who is would NEVER make you cry. Be strong, hugs to you.
2007-11-02 12:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by grdangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it won't work as he will continue to leave u for her and leave her for u whenever there is any argument or he doesn't get what he wants when he wants it. have a little self respect for yourself, do u really want seconds, or someone who chose someone over u? it will never work out, its who he is and its hard to change people. u would never really know if he is coming back out of love or that he is insecure and doesn't want to live alone. but if he had loved u he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
2007-11-02 11:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just treating you as home base as he runs around. If he left the first time, he could be confused as to who he loves more but leaving you the second time means that it is himself he loves the most. Tell him to get lost and look for someone new.
2007-11-02 10:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear, I can't tell you. But it seems like maybe you should tell him "no" and move on. To me, he seems to believe he can treat you like a door mat and you'll always take him back. I'm all for second chances but, can your heart stand it? Regardless, I won't throw stones. My husband and I have serious issues and even though I'm not sure I can trust him to love only me, I'm not sure I can let him go. Good luck
2007-11-02 10:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why take him back? Didn't it hurt enough the first 2 times?
2007-11-02 10:03:05 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋