was your husband also a virgin when you married him? if not, was/ is there the slightest bit of resentment or jealousy because of this? i ask because my fiance is a virgin, but i lost my virginity at age 14- half a lifetime ago. i'm trying to figure out if there will be any problems down the road because of this so i can know how to prepare for them. so have there been any arguments about your husband's past? what did you have to do to fix it?
2007-11-02 09:35:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to the first answerer: maybe because i love her and i've never known a better woman. why else?
to everyone else: this always happens when i ask questions here... in case you didn't get it; she's a woman. i'm a man. just clearing things up. i noticed a few answers that said ''he needs to know,'' or soemthing like that. ''he'' is me. LOL.
2007-11-02 09:48:23 · update #1
I was a virgin and ya I do feel a twinge of jealousy every now and then. I also worry about my prowess he had had so many before I worry that maybe I'm not as good. I love him and its not an all the time feeling just every now and then that I remember that I'm not the only woman in the world who has cuddled up to his snores after sex....hurts a little
2007-11-02 09:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, me and my fiance are both still techically virgins.
The only thing I can think of that might impact your relationship is if you compare your husband to your previous boyfriend. So don't bring up things like "My old boyfiend used to do this and I liked it..." because that might make your husband feel strange. But since it was a long time ago, it might not be that big of a deal to him.
Does he know that you're not a virgin? Maybe you should ask him how he feels about that and have a good discussion with him. Also, maybe just to be safe, get some STD tests before you get married so you don't potentially spread anything to him (just a general precaution, considering I don't know your situation).
2007-11-02 09:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ellenaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse was a virgin when we married, and I did not have much experience at all. However, my spouse does not resent the little experience that I've had, and loves me very much. There is no resentment from what I can tell. We discused everything before we even got engaged. The only thing I can think of that may be a problem for you all, is if you still have emotional ties or still talk to the exes you were "with."
2007-11-02 09:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that I don't want to be terrible at sex with my partner when I marry him. Haha! Well, that, I want to experience different things, see what I like, what I don't. Honestly that's the whole reason why is personal choice and the western society is growing further away from certain religious views and beginning to have their own thoughts & beliefs. This is not to say that religion is wrong, it's just religion is the main choice people choose to stay abstinent, which is totally okay as well.
2016-04-02 01:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be flippant, but if your relationship is strong enough your past sexual experiences are not the most important or relevant issue. The most important thing is the quality of your relationship. The concerns that you've raised here could be symptomatic of a general anxities about your commitment to this person or how your relationship may pan out.
2007-11-02 09:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that your sexual history should be an issue...... Choosing to remain a virgin is a womens choice and unless you claimed to be a virgin all this time she should have no problem with it......... besides two virgins is no fun. someone needs to take charge.
Hope all works out for you! Congrats on the wedding!
2007-11-02 09:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by heartbroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin when i started dating my husband but i did not wait until marriage does that count?
Either way the answer really lies in what type of person she is, for me it does not bother me at all that my husband has slept with someone else, I actually preferred that he had experience.
2007-11-02 09:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, the plan God set up was the one that says were supposed to wait until we're ALL married but I didnt and the man who I end up wed to will know that, it will bother the one that your with that she waited and you did not but there really isnt much you can do and if she cant accept that then you need to be with someone who can. But it WILL bother her, sorry.
2007-11-02 09:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this openly before marriage, and see his feelings. My spouse and I were both virgins when we were married, and depending on the kind of person your bf is, it could cause resentment. It depends if he is the kind who can move on, or if it will always bother him.
2007-11-02 09:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how u feel and if he loves you it should not be a problem... do talk it out as this was long time a ago , u must nt be knowing also wht ur doing at that time... Its okie to tell
2007-11-02 09:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Gurleen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋