how can we break the stereotypes in the gay community?

Question

how can we show the gays are not feminine at all... or the lesbians are manly.. ect.. I Hope you understand me..

Answer 1

There are many examples of non-stereotypical homosexual people, for example me, I play sports, I can have a conversation with the guys, and I am very masculine and like cars, hunting, watching sports, etc.
There are always going to be those stereotypical gay people because that is who they are. They can't really change that, if they are a guy and are feminine or a girl and are masculine then more power to them. It's who they are and the world should accept everyone, and hopefully someday the world will accept all people's differences no matter their sexual orientation, race, or gender.

Answer 2

I'm a Christian Fundie, and I wouldn't apply the stereotype of feminine to gay men... masculine lesbians, well... maybe. But the only "for sure" stereotype I find myself believing is that as a whole, gay men are more caring and kind than ANY other "group" of people on earth. No need to change that!

Answer 3

The reason that there are stereotypes is because people who are not a part of that group like to categorize it by the extremes that are humorous or shocking to them. It has nothing to do with the community themselves.

Is it right to condemn a drag queen, or a more masculine lesbian, or a effeminate gay man, simply because they have created a stereotype by being themselves? Do they not have the right to dress and act in a manner that makes them feel the most comfortable, just because those of us in the community that don't meet those extremes feel unjustly labeled?

We need to stop persecuting our own community, and ignore those who create and perpetuate the stereotypes. Stop being so concerned on how others see you, and worry about how you see yourself.

Answer 4

Lets face it... stereotypes are based on truth. BUT, the truth also is that not everyone fits the stereotypes. Some people fit the stereotypes, some don't. Stereotypes are for people who are either too lazy, or too ignorant to take the time to get to know people as individuals. Its an easy way to lump someone in with one group, rather than getting to know a person. We just need to be ourselves, not worry about the stereotypes, and eventually people will realize that people are people, and the respectful thing to do is to get to know each and every one of us, and appreciate us for who we are. This being said, people who don't fit the stereotypes shouldn't be afraid of the folks who do. It does not have to reflect on you. Its a big world, and it takes all types of people to make it go around. Appreciate our diversity.

Answer 5

Unfortunately those stereotypes are there because you do have some gay people or lesbians that just take it too far. Like men wearing dresses and high heels walking down the street at 2 in the morning in the dead of winter. Or lesbians who dress like a man and you really can't tell the difference. It's people like that who take it way to far out of content that cause these stereotypes.

Answer 6

Stereotyping is wrong yes. But asking some one to change because you do not want to be associated with them is also wrong. Most of the people can't help how they act you should know that. There are all kinds of people in this world and just like you wouldn't want some one to change you, same with others. I say just let people live, it is the bigots who stereotype others and then put them down. Don't play into their game and start hating on others in the family.

Answer 7

I doubt we will be able to.... If it were possible it will take quite a bit of time... The thing is I know 3 gays...(excluding me) they are all feminine.. As long as there are feminine gays it will be hard to break a stereotype when it's evident some are.

Answer 8

Yes, but some are, by coincidence, just as some who are are not gay or lesbian. The more of us who are known to be gay, the less likely that we'll be stereotyped by the appearance and actions of the few. Now, who'll be the first to volunteer to come of the closet.

Answer 9

I would not want to have someone not be themselves. Even if it was a feminine gay man or a manly lesbian.

Answer 10

I think it all boils down to everyone who is gay coming out of the closet ... it's the ones who AREN'T stereotypical that find it easiest to hide... and so they often do... when those people come out, they immediately challenge the beliefs of everyone they come in contact with simply by being unexpected... if everyone who was gay suddenly got a purple dot on their forehead.... I believe in that moment, bigotry would be a thing of the past... because we're everywhere... and part of everyone's families... they just don't know it... and the easiest people to hate... are the ones you THINK are "way over there"... when it turns out... they're your mother... your brother... your uncles and aunts... everything changes...