my mom cheated on my dad and she moved out with my sister and brother so ive been living with my dad the past few months.. and got really close but then my sister moved in ( me and my dad had been going to a pentecostal church for the last 6 months) im still going.. hes still attending but ive been crying myself to sleep cause he says icant say anything about what hes been doing and hes been going out to bars getting drunk and it really hurts me inside. ive moved to my moms a couple times for the weekend but i just moved yesterday and am more upset and missing my dad then ever. I moved all my stuff its officiol but ijsut want my parents to get back together!!! it would make my dad so happy and all the kids and im sure my mom woul be happy again. i know god can work miricles please help this be one of them!! need advice too.
2007-11-02 08:49:18 · 18 answers · asked by juliii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i forgot to add my dad is never home. and alwyas gone at the bar but not just that.. he wotn tell me where he goes and when i hear him talkign to his freinds the next day hes talking about all the girls he dances with (almost every night) and this is when i moved out cause we were at dinner and he was talking about how much he liked all of them i couldnt keep it in anylonger i ran out of the resturan crying and started walking down the road with no where to go. and also to add my mom is stil dating this guy. his names craig my mom name is lisa and my dad name jason mmy name is kirstie please keep us in your prayers!!!! and i will pray that god blesses all of you for praying for me!! please help me.
2007-11-02 09:16:01 · update #1
Hi Kirstie,
this is so hard for you I know. God CAN do miracles...I have seen them! He knows how much you want your family back together. I will pray for you and your mom and dad. They have to make their own decisions. But I am going to pray for your protection and happiness. Kirstie, even if they choose not to be together it is not your fault and you can still have your own happiness in your future. Kirstie, this world is so messed up and it is not going to get any better. There are thousands of homes just like yours and worse. There IS hope though....Jesus is coming soon and will make everything right again. You need to choose to be on His side now so that you will be ready. He can give you happiness right now....even in all this. Just talk to Him and tell Him everything that bothers you, and how much this hurts you...He will listen...He has the time for you. You are VERY important to Him! You take care now, ok? Email me if you would like to talk to someone. Here's a big hug from a friend!
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-11-03 17:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I will definitely keep your family in my prayers. I've been through something similar when I was a teenager, and God has really blessed my life after I went through a serious depression. My advice is to try not to take the blame or even worry about your parents' problems too much. They are the adults in the situation, and should be trying to make the transition for you and your siblings as easy as possible, not the other way around. You can't do anything about the situation, but pray and try to enjoy your life. Remember to reach out for God while you are vulnerable, so you will not fall into temptation. It's easy to start rebelling at a time like this, but the things you do now, will have a serious impact later in life. You want to have a good life, so make good choices. God never promises a life without problems, but he has promised you peace during the storms and to fight your battles. You can really help your parents best by praying for them. You can even pray that they make good choices and that they find peace as well. I hope this helps. Be blessed.
2007-11-02 16:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look sweetie I know this is difficult for you. All kids want thier parents together as a big happy family. For reasons you don't understand now which you will when you become an adult, these are the reasons why marriages go bad. There are so many and only your parents know.
You can't do anything about getting them back together. Regardless they will always love you and be your parents. I think you should not take this split personal. Let your parents deal with it and it 's meant to be that they get back together then it will happen, but only if they both want to. If not then they will each take different paths. Also remember that a marriage is about 2 people that want to be together and if one of them does not then it doent work.
Love them both and make them proud by doing your homework and being a good kid.
Good luck
2007-11-02 16:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie, no matter how much we want other people to be together it has their decision. If he doesn't make her happy then they won't work. As what your dad is doing, well if it is affecting you this badly then you should go to your youth pastor and talk to him. Because you can disclose anything to him/her and they should not tell anyone of what you discussed. Your dad needs help and right now he's a bit lost. We may be able to look in from the outside and see what works best for other people but until your mom and dad sit down and talk it through there really is nothing that you can do. You need to believe that God does what is best for everyone. It might not be what we want but it is what is best for us. You need to realize that unfortunately this is not about you and your siblings but your parents. Know that they love you the same and that's not going to change.
2007-11-02 16:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by antoinette m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kdog, I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. You sound like the most mature of the whole family at this point. Why don't you try talking with your dad and your mom and tell them what this is doing to you and your family. Ask them to seek marriage counseling together and counseling separately. If they can't afford that, then suggest they talk with the pastor of your church. Help them understand that there is more at stake here than just themselves. They have a responsiblility to their children and to each other to do everything they possibly can to make amends and get this family back together again. God can and does work miracles. I pray right now, Dear Lord, that You would help this family get back together. Help forgiveness to be a part of this healing process and help the mom and dad to restore the love they once had for each other. Help them to regard there marriage vows as more than just words. Help the kids to have words of wisdom beyond their years to share with their parents. Help their parents to have ears to hear not only the crys of their mate but also the crys of their children. May peace be restored and love reign the day. In Jesus name.
I hope that you will stay close to the Lord and understand that He does not wish this heartache on you or your family. Your mom and your dad have the responsibility to work on their marriage. No one, not even God, can do it for them. God can and does help, but they have to do their part too. And as for you and the other siblings, you are not responsible for your parents problems within their marriage. It is not your fault. So, don't take that on.
2007-11-02 16:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad have made choices in their lives that cause you pain. Yes, God is a Miracle making God and you are a miracle already......but don't be too disappointed with God if your mom and dad don't work out.
I know that you love both your parents and right now they are Both walking away from God and living a life outside of him. Watch your parents and learn how you should not behave as an adult.......
Your are personally involved in this relationship and God will hear your prayers and he will answer but In His timing and He will give you what is best for you. He is a good God.....I know......My husband died four years ago and I personally learned that.
Heavenly Father I come to you right now in the name of Jesus.....I ask for you to fill this child with Peace......Your peace the kind that passes all understanding.....Cover this child under your wing of protection. I ask for you to do a mighty work in her parents right now. Thank you Lord Amen.
May you always Know that you are Loved, Cherished and Adored.....even in the midst of this storm......be Blessed.
2007-11-02 16:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don`t say your age, but no matter. This is not your doing , you are rightfully upset and the circumstances you are in warrant that. This is a learning experience for you, another of life`s many curves that we all experience at one time or another. Your Father is upset for sure, and may have lost his way. Your Mother made a mistake and needs to realize what she has done. Only time will heal wounds that are so deep, yet in the grand scheme of things there always is and will be a balance.
In the meantime you need to believe in your faith, never let it go, remain steadfast in these tumultuous times.
2007-11-02 16:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm praying for you. You know your dad is hurting and he is drowning his sorrows in alcohol.
Call Alcoholics Anonymous and ask them to direct you to the nearest Al-non meeting, they accept young people there and it is free. They have the best help in the world for you right now. Call today.
You have to accept that you can't change your parents. You might have to accept also that they don't get back together. You can pray, that will be the best thing you can do. Be prepared for what ever happens, it can go either way.
2007-11-02 15:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very hurt kid. What your dad is doing is very bad. He is ignoring all his responsibilities with you. You should call your mom and tell her that you want to move in with her.
Some day when your dad gets tiered doing what he is doing, he will realize then that he hurt a lot of people. We are praying for you that God will comfort you and that your dad may come back to his senses.
2007-11-02 16:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thers much pain here,from many people. Your parents must sort this out for themselves. I know you are hurting, the kids always feel it as well. They may not want to try again and you must be ready to accept that. Dont judge either parent...you cant know all the facts. Just be there for them, and be strong enough to concentrate on your own life. You are very unsettled now but things will eventually find a level. Get with your mates and live your life.......please.........x
2007-11-02 15:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋