Should I get an abortion?

Question

When I had my daughter I went thru 12 hrs of labor before I found out that it would be impossible for me to ever have kids vaginally. I was upset that the doctors didn't tell me this in advance, but of course I had to go thru with the csection. My doctor suggested I not have kids close together and make sure I'm ready before having another child because I will always have to have the surgery. My csection was not a good experience for me. I did not recover as quick as some do. The first couple of days I even had to get someone to wipe me after using the toilet because I couldn't turn like I needed to. It even hurt whenever I laughed or coughed. I might be pregnant now and I'm really considering not having it. It's too soon. I never thought I would ever even consider this, but that was before I found out that my body was different. I need opinions on this and also would like to know if any has had an abortion under these circumstances or does anyone have my same condition?

none of u guys are being realistic and hopefully none of u are Christian that are calling me names. People get scared and have crazy thooughts all the time, I"M HUMAN! u guys are talking like ive already done it. I hope young teens aren't online asking questions because there's never a need to call someone a murderer. Judge and you will be judged. Because u don't agree with abortion that is not the correct way to address it. Hope you know that the same hate you spew on women who decide to do it, makes u no different then all of these women u probably claim are going to hell, because you'll be right there with them. My question was just a thought, not an action. But your comments were actions, not just thoughts. Hope you know that you will be judges in the end just as well. Can I get any kindhearted, real Christian people to come at me with love and sincerity. That's the only way to convince someone of God's truth.

Answer 1

It took a while for me to get through my post c-section, but I to will say this. Abortions are very serious and something that will haunt you forever, you have to live with what choice you make in the end and the worst thing about a c-section lasts probably about a week, again you knew what would happen if you got pregnant so make sure you write out your pros and cons and if you don't keep this one maybe you should consider having your tubes tied to avoid this happening again.

Answer 2

I'm going to try to put this as sensitive as I know how.
The baby did not ask to be here. Yes, you made a mistake, but you really can't let the child pay the price for something a child never has control over.
Besides, you don't know ahead of time how you would really feel afterwards.
Afterwards, you may feel so much grief, and everytime you hear the word "abortion", you may really be angry with yourself with a sense of guilt. Then there's always going to be at the back of your mind knowing you can never know what the child would look like, the gender, or what she/he would grow to be like.
This isn't to take lightly.
You know what? I had a c-section as well, so I know the pain. But I also know that I still desire more kids someday after finding Mr. Right because that pain is worth it, thinking all the rewards of a child.
Just think of this as a lesson, and use the pill and condoms from now on. You do need a back-up for the pill because it's not 100% effective, and nor is the condom.
Believe, if you do feel emotional pain after the abortion, it would be far more than you can bare, and that pain will be with you for life.
Trust me, it's not worth it! I just want to help you to save yourself the grief and heart ache!

Answer 3

This might be a bad place to ask this, considering you will get biased opinions from people who are pro-choice/life. If it is harmful for you or could pose risk for your baby, the best way to go about it, is to ask your doctor, I know it seems a little lame to answer you with a way out of not really answering, but your doctor would be the best judge of your condition. I've never been in this position, but I know that I would talk to my doctor before deciding either way.

Even using protection, nothing is 100%, and you cannot blame would already may have happened, won't make the situation any different. I do know a girl who had an abortion because she couldn't handle having another baby (even though it was twins), and it was very hard for her to do it, just think of your options. Good luck...

Answer 4

I don't think you should in a case like this. Abortion should never be used as a means of birth control. If you didn't want a child this soon, you should've been on some form of birth control. Any kind of surgery, including c-section take time to recover from. However, no one can really tell you what to do. It is your life and your circumstances and you are the one who will have to live with whatever you decide to do. None of us can tell you what you should do because we do not have to live your life.

Answer 5

I have had 2 regular deliveries and 1 c-section with my latest child I was in the hospital with perterm labor and then went into early labor anyways and she was breech...so she had to be delivered c-section...I know a c-section is terrible compared to having a baby normally, but if I got pregnant again and knew I had to have a c-section I would still go through all the pain and suffering and have the baby by c-section. Good luck and God Bless....do some serious thinking as living with having had an abortion can be a terrible thing in itself...

Answer 6

c-sections are harder on your body and they may not have known before hand that you could not deliver vaginally.

Its not unusal at all for anyone to have severe pain and the pain with coughing and laughing is normal. I agree close together and c-sections is not healthy but not sure abortion is a reasonable answer. Maybe talk to your OB about the risks cause you need to know that.

I have never had a c-section so can not relate to your pain but have many friends who have had them and I do feel for you guys.

Answer 7

women have c-sections all the time, get over it. Some women heal quicker than others, get over it. If you don't want the baby just say you don't want the baby and get rid of it, don't blame it on a c-section, they are perfectly healthy, my mom had 2 of them. Ask the doctor if he believes you will be able to carry the baby to term and if he thinks the c-section will go smoothly. He will tell you if he thinks you are the baby is in harms way. I respect it if you want to have an abortion, but don't try to justify it by blaming it on a c-section, that's not a justification. Good luck and do what is best for you.

Answer 8

I personally don't think that your problem is a legitimate reason for having an abortion. You should have thought about that and used birth control as well as condoms when having sex. If it were me, I would have the baby because I would know it was my own fault for not being more careful. You, however, just need to do what you feel is right for you. Just remember, if you have an abortion you will have to live with knowing that you did that, and you can't ever take it back.


*Shanee--I completely agree that it is wrong of these people to be calling you a murderer, as that's not how I view abortion in certain circumstances. However, if you were really the good Christian you seem to be claiming, you wouldn't have thought of abortion to begin with.

Answer 9

really?? you would consider murdering a precious innocent life cause you dont want to be in pain? please do not do that. there is a reason, if you are pregnant. if you didnt want to be so soon you should have done something to prevent that. i dont care how humiliating things get after having a baby, the hospital staff know more than you can ever imagine, i have had 3 cesareans and i am hoping to have one more asap. they never told me anything about it being too soon,. my kids are 4 2 and 1. this really bothers me that someone would have the audacity to kill a baby because they dont want to go through the pain. oh my gosh, think about it before you get yourself pregnant, please, for the sake of the kids. i know first hand it hurts, but killing should be out of the question. good luck to you whatever you decide and God bless you and that babies soul

ps. i just read what you added and you said in the first part of the question that you were looking for our opinions, so we all gave you our opinion. i dont know anyone here so i can only speak for myself, i was trying to plea with you and tell you its not that bad to have another c-section, you can do it, but you have to take that life into consideration. this is a very touchy subject. you cant come on here with all these happily pregnant people and expect not to be "judged". there is only one true judge and we cant do that, but we can do what you asked, and that is to just share an opinion. we care about the welfare of babies on here. is that so wrong?

Answer 10

you want to have an abortion because you will have to get a c-section hunny that is not a very good reason to abort i do believe all c-sections are uncomfortable not just yours with my first child my water broke 5 weeks early and she was born 5 weeks before she was due and stopped breathing when she was 8 days old with my second i was in labor for 16-17 hours and got an infection and had to go back to the hospital for 4 days and leave my new baby with my sister there are worse things then a c-section i would do it all over again for my kids there are people out there who are dying to concieve even if it ment they had to push there baby out there butt!!!!!