As soon as his friend heard we went on a date, he called him up and said "I heard she is moody." A few weeks later he emailed him framing me for saying things I would NEVER - trying to get my bf upset with me. His buddy and his wife have put me on guilt trips saying that my bf has a room at their house and used to stay there every Saturday and spend every Sunday all day there (until I came along). This couple is never together, as he's always out drinking with the boys - or himself! He's started up with stories again, but I'm 19 weeks pregnant and can't deal anymore - it's out of control. I'm to the point where I don't care if my bf is gone, next weekend I plan to see my family without him (4.5hrs away) so this guy can get out of my face and have him all to himself. Only my bf is invited out (movies, golf, etc.) His buddies 30th bday party is in a couple weeks, I don't want to go (mine was yesterday, didn't get a "happy bday" from him... I'm thinking of a no-show, is it ok?
2007-11-02 08:38:09 · 6 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Basically, his buddy thinks our relationship should be like their marriage - where he walks all over his wife and drinks all the time. I won't be happy with that, my bf has been pretty good about it, but I just wish his buddy could grow up or get the heck outta my life. They are trying to start a family and I just don't see how he could be a father when he can't be a decent husband or friend.
2007-11-02 08:40:56 · update #1
It just sucks cuz we both work mon-fri and on weekends when we actually do have time to spend together his buddy expects it to be their time. Plus his buddy calls our place every single night "just to chat"
2007-11-02 08:44:46 · update #2
Am I over-reacting? do I need to chill? How would you deal with this?
2007-11-02 08:46:04 · update #3
Time to talk to your guy. Tell him that this is ridiculous that your relationship is with him not his idiotic friends. Let him know that with a baby coming along you are tired and feel like settling down and taking a break from his friends. Tell him that you feel like its time for you to be a family and start making decisions like a family.He needs to start sticking up for you if your going to be together he should think of your lives as one and when someone insults you or says things behind your back or is rude to you in any way he should take that as a direct insult to him and pipe up and say something especially since his friend is causing the problem. Go ahead and skip the birthday and see if your guy will stay home with you and just send a gift or a phone call to his buddy. Time for your man to start being a grownup and put his new family before his friends.
2007-11-02 08:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora's box 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your boyfriend thinks more of his buddy than you. Why are you still with him. To make life simple, move out get your own place, don't argue or yell about this(then you are nagging) just go get a place. If you are going to have to be without a man around because he is out drinking, then you might as well be by yourself, and not have to argue, fret, and clean up after someone that doesn't appreciate it in the first place. If he cares, he will change, if not you are going to be by yourself, and you might as well accept it. I would not go and I would throw down the gaunlet< go if you must but count me out, I don't like being abused, and today is the day I start.
2007-11-02 09:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit down with him and let him know just how you are feeling. Let him know that if he wants to be in a relationship, that you and the baby need to come first. If he can't handle that or stick up for you, then you have every right to move forward with your own life.
2007-11-02 08:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One too bad you chose to have a child with a boy instead of a man.
He is free to have whatever friends he wants, you do not have to attend.
2007-11-02 08:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy in DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a big long heart to heart with your bf. His friend is a jerk, but what's worse is your boyfriend is *allowing* his friend to be a jerk to you.
Unfortunately, you are who you hang out with. He needs to lose this loser.
2007-11-02 08:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set theses people straight in a calm and serious way, they will respect you more and if they dont just walk out the door
2007-11-02 09:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by old_soul_945 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋