That I want to be a stay at home mom for some part of my life?
I'm planning on getting through my credentialing to become a high school teacher and then when kids come want to stay home (and write, preferably, which I've always done).
Why do people have a problem with this?
2007-11-02 08:37:39 · 9 answers · asked by kiki 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it's what you want to do and your finances are such that you can, there's no problem with it! A lot of people these days think happiness is having more stuff than your neighbor, but they miss the great intangible rewards of being a stay-at-home parent. I'm a firm believer kids turn out better when their mom and dad are the caregivers, not day care. Maybe these folks who think it's horrible are just jealous that you have the luxury of doing this!
2007-11-02 09:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a stay at home mom is the best thing you can do for your children. I had a boy and girl and was able to do that. It is the best thing, I ever did. They are both in the 30s now and we have a close relationship.When you are able to be at home, you are able to give your children the attention they need and deserve.
Sometimes it can't be done because of finances. Just to make ends meet, sometimes people have to work. For these ones that complain: I think it is because, they have to do it, that they think everyone else should too. However, I think that a lot of people have a problem with it because of living in a world that focuses on themselves. What they want and not what their child really needs. If you don't go along with it, that means they might be wrong in their thinking and they don't want to hear that.
2007-11-02 09:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by hugs2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they didn't do it, and if they didn't then it can't be right. It is wonderful that you plan on staying home with your kids. Not enough moms stay at home with their kids, and that is why most of them turn out the way they do. I hope you can financially afford to stay home. Once you start working and have that money it is hard not to have it. Try to live without your salary and only live on your husbands, put it in the bank. It might be hard, but that is what you are going to be living on when you quit anyway.
2007-11-02 09:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that matters is that you and your husband are both on board! People have forgotten that the most important thing in the world is to love and care for our children! It makes me so sad that the women who do this are made to feel guilty. I would just not discuss it with those that don't understand--don't leave it open for debate because you are doing the right thing. A little extra money or a bigger house would mean very little if some one else was raising your kids.
Best of Luck...kudos for being a stay at home mom!
2007-11-02 08:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by checking answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a sahm of 4 and I understand exactly what your talking about but, it doesn't just end there...... the sahm's are talking just as much crap about the working moms, lol.
A sahm gets alot more respect than your seeing right now...... once you become a mom, people really start commending you for putting the kids first. Now I have a mother-in-law that can't stand for me to stay at home but, I think it's just b/c she wishes that she were able to do it with her own.
2007-11-02 09:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by jo_momma_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society is brainwashed and becoming ultra liberal. Roles are reversed, women used to be the modest ones like Beaver's mother that kept guys in check in the 50's. Now many women dress like hookers and have a casual view of sex as if they are dirt bag males.
From experience, your kids really need you, especially the first 4 years. You need to be there one on one to disipline them and teach them values, right from wrong, how to be thoughtful and considerate, something that a day care working watching 7 kids at once could never do.
Feminists hate stay at home mothers, it is almost political like lib vs. conservative because conservatives tend to do the stay at home & homeschool thing. Liberals encourage families to break down and have people depend on the government/institutions instead.
2007-11-02 08:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Josh L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...there are the feminists out there, who when the see stay-at-home moms think that everything they're working for is for nothing.
But...some people enjoy being stay-at-home moms. So it's not up to them to say "No, you should go out and work just because you can!"
2007-11-02 08:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want to be a stay at home mom too. there is nothing wrong with it except that western society has had an uprising of women that feel they need to prove there equality amongst men. then there are women like you and me with strong family values who feel a sense of pride and joy and tradition at preforming the work of a women. it is after all the toughest job of them all.
2007-11-02 09:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora's box 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should just do what feels right, instead of listening to other people. Because otherwise you'll end up just being unhappy anyway. And what's the point of trying to hard to survive if you're not happy living anyway.
2007-11-02 08:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by xXEdgeXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋