My husband and I work at the same company. I am his boss. He was supposed to turn in a project last Monday and he didn't. I had to make an example of him to avoid being unfair to the others, so I suspended him for two weeks without pay. He doesn't talk to me anymore at home! How do I explain to him that work and personal life should not be mixed?
2007-11-02 08:20:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's taking advantage of your personal relationship to excuse his neglegence at work. You did the right thing for your team by not showing him favoritism, but at the same thing, you may have hurt your relationship with him. Perhaps you shoudl have just written him up instead of suspending him without pay. Tell him that if he cannot be responsible at work, he is making both of you look bad and should find work someplace where there is no conflict of interest.
2007-11-02 08:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, this is why any intelligent corporation or business does not allow family members to supervise other family members.
Are you 100% certain the fact that he's your husband did not cause you to overcompensate and give him a harsher punishment than you otherwise would have, just because you had to "make an example of him"? Would another employee have been suspended for two weeks without pay for the same mistake?
If you're sure the punishment would have been the same for everyone, I think you were being fair. Unfortunately, being fair doesn't always help with popularity. It's understandable your husband is upset, and I don't think you should try to explain to him that he shouldn't mix personal life and business life.
In typical jobs, if a person gets in trouble by their boss, they don't want to have a lot of face time with the boss for a while, until they're over being upset. He can't escape his boss. It's gonna bother him.
It'll probably blow over if you give it some time, but for now, I would not try to force him to be okay with it.
And if it comes to one of you changing departments or taking a different job, that may have to be done. Don't have a supervising job over him, and this problem won't happen again.
2007-11-02 15:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting, but is being unfair to him so you don't appear unfair to other's fair?
Would you really of been that mean to anyone else?
If an employer would "suspend an employee" without pay for two weeks they better not plan on keeping them around. Making an example out of someone is "old school" and has been proven to be non-productive. Good managers try to mentor and inspire people to bring out their best willingly. Working because of fear of punishment is just so outdated.
2007-11-02 15:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain it as is: work and home are separate. You both have a job to do in the workplace, and if it's not done, there are consequences to face. Period. If he were mature, he'd understand this. He was irresponsible, therefore, he had to face his consequence, and it would have been the same if anyone else were his boss.
2007-11-02 15:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that working together is a good idea, just because of this reason, you have humiliated him (and rightly so from a managers view) but he (as your husband) wouldnt of ever expected you to do this to him under any circumstance, so he is probably feeling very hurt by it. write him a letter explaining the reasons behind his suspension etc..and give it to him then maybe one of you should work in a different department from now on if your marriage is to last xx
2007-11-02 15:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not personal and business should not be mixed doesn't matter. But the fact is it always will be, granted he should try to be a bit more understanding of the matter. But you should put yourself in his position. I would imagine he feels pretty darn lowly right now.
2007-11-02 15:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right work and personal life should not be mixed...as a wife you publicly humiliated him and he doesn't feel loved by you.
When a wife publicly humiliates a husband she tells the world around her and him that she doesn't love him. No matter how hard you tell them that you love him they will not believe you.
A man's ego is like an egg.....fragile.....You have no business working with your husband......
2007-11-02 15:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch that was pretty harsh. I hope you would treat your other employees exactly the same way. I am surprised your employer allows your husband to work for you. That would never be allowed where I work.
2007-11-02 15:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but that's screwed up. Have you been on Jerry Springer lately? Because it sounds like you two should be on a stage smashing wedding cake in each other's faces.
2007-11-02 15:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he should get a job somewhere else. it is never a good thing for couples to be working together especially if the wife is the boss. it makes him feel unimportant.
2007-11-02 15:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by morningstar6707 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋