2007-11-02 08:05:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
believe it or not ive tried everything. im thinking my next step is to talk to his family.
2007-11-02 08:11:59 · update #1
I am ever so slightly appalled, "make them" ? Come now, you can't make anyone do anything. You can encourage them to seek out help if you think they need it, but if you try to force them then the only thing you'll get is resentment and no improvement, since if they don't think they need help then they won't try to get "better" since they see themselves as fine the way they are. You can perhaps give them examples of things, but the best way would be to have a heart to heart talk with them and help them to see it your way.
2007-11-02 08:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cogito 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A very angry person HAS to blame others inorder to justify his/her anger in the first place. H/She can't give up seeing that others' are making him angry--OR that would lead back to early childhood probably, and to anger with a rejecting mother (if the angry person is a man). The adult cannot face that the anger is archaic and not because of the person he's with as an adult! Request couples' counseling (if this is appropriate) and if the person is not willing--then get out of the relationship. They will only escalate--and if they do accept counseling, you be STRAIGHT with them on the behavoir!! I attended a year of marriage counseling, but I realized that I was too afraid to be straight/honest re the abusive behr of my spouse--due to fear of his retaliation after we got home. I was very lucky to get my little daughter and myself out of the home safely and got a divorce. Interestingly, he married a woman who worked, who wanted no children and he got to stay home as a house-husband. She threatened to leave him if he didn't stop his abusive bhr! He was a very dependent man, so he actually stopped drinking and smoking and stopped the angry tirads!!!
But "make the person go to anger management"...it'll never happen except if he's likely to lose EVERYTHING! Just make sure you are NOT being abused!!!!
2007-11-02 13:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Martell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't make anyone do anything. People have to decide for themselves. You would have to be willing to put certain consequences into effect in order to get that person to consider it. Like not being with that person anymore. Do what you need to do for your happiness. Everything else will fall into place.
2007-11-02 08:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by plastik punk -Bottom Contributor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to "MAKE" it happen would be for the person to assault you, and the judge (after you press charges) makes it a condition of probation.
You can't make people do things otherwise.
All you can do is give an ultimatum, and if they're unwilling, leave them.
2007-11-02 11:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on who they are you can't necessarily make them go you can lovingly coax them to go. In my situation I have a friend who has a husband in the military and well yes people can be made to go when they let their anger flair too far out of normalcy.
2007-11-02 08:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lori M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't make your loved one do as you order...
the best way its to be sneaky
say your haveing anger issues and your doing this little free program on Coping.org (look it up)
and you would like a buddy to do it with you if he would be your partner in this you would love his help!
stroke the ego Honey, i can't do this alone and your so smart with words and stuff can you help me do this!
it may send some triggers as he (helps you) he will have to read it and maybe just maybe something will click!
good luck!
www.coping.org
2007-11-02 08:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋