Ok so this is what happened. I was in the library today at school and 2 of my friends and this girl I don't like were talking out loud so i heard the whole conversation. The girl i dont like said "Her boyfriend is cheating and she's clueless." and my friend started singing Secret Lovers. I had no idea who they were talking about so I didn't care. So then I went to my locker and I saw a note and it said my boyfriend's name and some girl's name and then it said secret lovers. So when I got back to the class I looked at all 3 of them and they smiled and i just sat down at my desk and said nothing. Please help me somebody I'm falling apart. School is already stressful enough and he' making it worse. What should I do?
2007-11-02 07:45:03 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why dont u just wait a while and see how things goes. If u feel that things are gettin strange, start askin him twisted questions that will lead up to the confession you know wat i mean?
dont believe wat other ppl say, if u trust him enough, then u shud believe him, until u get solid proof. And just make sure u make it clear to him. If he wants to cheat, go ahead and he shoudnt be with u, cuz its a pretty shallow move.
Hope it helps =/
and if u do find out he is really cheating on u. Just give him a kick down there and slap the girl :P
Tc
2007-11-02 07:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by thousand_miles37 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's best not to jump to conclusions. Yeah so you got a note with his and her name on it saying "secret lovers." Your "friends" were probably just playing a really mean joke on you - for God knows why. I mean, c'mon. I wouldn't put it past them. Supposedly your boyfriend is cheating on you and, despite the fact that they're your BEST friends, they refuse to tell you? Doesn't sound right to me. Any good friend would tell you, no matter how much it hurts.
I would confront your boyfriend about it first before assuming the worst and just flat out dumping him. He could even be the innocent one in all this. Show him the note and ask him about it. Has he given you any reason to NOT trust him? Is he one of those real flirty types? Does he have a lot of 'gal pals'? If not, the last thing you want to do is hurt him by believing what your friends say to be true without first going to the source.
Again, to me, it sounds like a real mean practical joke that your so-called best friends decided to play on you - perhaps out of jealousy. If you find out that it was - you need to have a serious talk with these friends of yours whom you should be able to trust. Re-prioritize your life. Yes school is stressful and you don't need mean friends doing things such as this to add to that stress. In the end, just brush it off and move on with life. Don't let these things tear you apart or the real world will eat you alive.
Best of luck with your boyfriend and 'best friends.' Hope it all works out for you.
2007-11-02 08:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by iammai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you not take the word of those girls or a note put in your locker. Find out what is actually going on before unnecessarily stressing about anything. Never simply assume the worse.
Anyone who does that type of thing is not your friend. And if they are not your friend, then their motives are not in your best interest and are spurred by selfishness. Why should you trust people who are out for themselves?
2007-11-02 07:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok one i think u should make sure he is really cheating b4 u do anything else cuz the other girls could only b trying to break u 2 up so they can date him. two if he is really cheating u should dump him b4 he dumps u. its better to dump some1 instead of them dumping u. three there is no point ot date someone if they don't like u at all. i hope i helpped and i'm srry to hear that!! schools gives lots of stress now. i get a lot from my school as well
2007-11-02 08:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you friggin' serious? GET NEW FRIENDS & "MOST DEFINATELY" a new dern boy friend, or if your so stressed out with school, ditch the "boyfriends" for a while. All they are, are heart breakers anyways. If your still in high school its really pointless to have one. All this crap your dealing with is probably hard enough without all this cheating bf shiz. Just take it step by step, you'll do better that way, instead of having all this stuff on your plate.
2007-11-02 07:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby-Lou xx 9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, you are not dating your friends. You are dating your boyfriend. Sit him down in absolute privacy and ask him the question. Take no prisoners at this stage. Be prepared. If he starts giving you the "Oh, baby, don't be that way..." just respond with "I have all I need to know. You may leave now," while pointing your finger toward the door.
With kind regards....Finn
2007-11-02 07:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to a friend of mine too..Her boyfriend and the other girl were actually hanging out with her friends while she was out of town...You're always the last to know. Tell your boyfriend it's over, tell your ''friends'' if you can call them that that what they did was careless and evil. I suggest hanging out with a different crowd....And don't worry about stress at school, it really does seem like the end of the world right now, but it will end and you will get over it later and it won't matter anymore. be strong and bonne chance!
2007-11-02 07:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is not your friend if she's making fun of you. Sounds to me she is a bit of a **** licker with the girl you don't like. You could carry on as normal but be careful what you say and do where she is until she proves she can be trusted again. Or if you have other friends dump her in public and your boyfriend too!
2007-11-02 07:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your "friends" aren't really friends at all. My advice-dump the b***hes and the boy and move on! There are plenty of fish in the sea. Like you said school is stressful enough, lose the guys and concentrate on school-it will get you farther then some boy ever will!
2007-11-02 07:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by armygirl8708 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If school is so stressful, cut this kind of drama out of it. Realize that most high school relationships are fickle and silly. There is no point in acting like your boyfriend is going to one day marry you. He is just a child and so are you, it's just high school.
Spend more time on your work, and less worrying about dating and guys. There's plenty of time for that in college.
2007-11-02 07:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋