We were engaged and living together but now he wants to do his own thing bc "he never made the same mistakes as everyone else" now he wants me to move back to my home in TN and work on our life together while he parties and has the option to sleep around he says this is so he wont cheat on me he swears that he loves me and will be with me and this is his way of making sure he is totally commited to me when we get back together i trust him we still act like we are together i just figured if you loved someone you would not want to sleep with other people. either way i am moving and if he comes down there he does if not i know this was just a lie. anyone else going thru this? and if so how did it work out?
2007-11-02 07:34:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't honestly believe him do you? If he loves you, he'll take will be enough! There is no free trial of the outside life when you are in a relationship. He's playing you. Tell him, either love me now and be with me or go do your party thing and not me! There is no "and" here, there is either or! When you are committed you are committed. I don't ever look at my boyfriend and say, hmmm.... I really love him, but maybe I should go sleep with a few guys just to make sure. NO!
Dumps his sorry behind, he's playing you for a fool!
2007-11-02 07:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you didn’t loose all your self-respect yet!!
He cheats you now (openly) and will cheat you in the future... so he needs to party and sleep around meanwhile you have to sit at home and hold the candle and wait till he finds his way back to you... I would throw his belongings out of the window and raise my middle finger towards him and change the lock of the door.
This guy will bring nothing than tears to you and he will make you feel miserable for the rest of your life...
How would he react if you would do the same? Ahhhh... that’s different...
Come on, you deserve better! In the first place somebody who loves and respects you and somebody who is able to give you a future and a family... this guy will be in the streets going behind every skirt... you will be the one to cry alone at night and you will never be able to trust him.
I would not like such a life and that’s why I would send him to hell now before it’s too late.
Sorry, but I am just honest…
2007-11-02 07:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, any person man or woman that says" I love you BUT I want to go and do my own thing for a while, then I'll come back to you" what he is really saying is, I want to know if there is something better, and If I can't find anyone then I'll come back and settle for you since that is all I can get. My opinion of what you should do..... drop that scumbag, pack and get going.Tell him it's over go get whatever he is looking for... gezzzz some people are so stupid. Don't let him play you for a fool, and that whole thing about he wants to do this so he won't cheat?? Whatever........he is a a**hole....let him go.
2007-11-02 07:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by peacefrogzs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is probably not what you desire to hearken to yet you're able to break up!!!! She already instructed you that she loves him better than you and he or she's no longer even treating you the comparable anymore so it looks she already has her recommendations made up. Thats her childs father so she's continually gonna have that connection with him. He could be an asswhole and you're able to be the single for her yet perhaps she doesnt see that and prefer I reported once you have a baby in user-friendly with somebody it adjustments the entire interest. it fairly is going to likely be stressful and to permit go yet you're able to do what you acquire to do. If it is the girls human beings which you fairly desire to spend something of your existence with then go all out and get your spouse back yet once you experience that she is in simple terms too far long previous then walk away and discover somebody else without drama and somebody who will love you for you. i'm in a courting now (wit toddler daddy) on and stale for 12yrs and we've been by using hell n back infidelity and each thing so i will relate to a level yet once you like somebody you're able to attempt and artwork it out!! My feeling for him are no longer as reliable as they have been as quickly as I first have been given with him yet have been attempting to artwork it out yet while she isnt prepared then you could head on and discover somelse who's nicely worth your wild. Karma is a ***** and all and sundry reeps what the stitch!!!!
2016-10-03 04:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by rask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r living 2gether but now he wants u 2 leave so he can do his own thing? the man loves being by himself rather than being with u. he is not committed to u at this point and not sure in the future. why don't u try not leaving but rather staying around but allow him to do his own thing. give him space 4 awhile. and see if it will work.
2007-11-02 11:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by dani l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you if he wants to sleep around. What a jerk. Move on and don't let him ruin your life. I hate it when guys act that way. I wouldn't trust the guy either. He is a dick and you need to move on.
2007-11-02 08:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by HMMMM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I went thorugh this when I was in college. We ended up going our seperate ways. I'm sure he still loves you, but he probably doesn't want to get tied down right now, at least not with you and maybe this is his way of letting you down as gently as possible.
2007-11-02 07:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl for god's sake find someone else who will really love you and be faithful,sounds like this guy wants his cake and eat it too. no no no do not go back to him, if you do you could catch an awful from him(v.d.) so do your own thing and find a good mature man
2007-11-02 07:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve better. Why is he engaged to you if he wants to sleep with other people.
Why should he get to have his cake and eat it at your expense??
2007-11-02 13:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by Cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go home, restart your life without him.. and find someone else...
You can do a lot better than this....
2007-11-02 07:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋