My ex & I don't have a custody order for our 2 kids, he just went & filed court papers to get it set in stone. He's requesting 50/50 everything because he refuses to help me financially w/ the kids. He lives at home w/ his parents (29 yrs.old) & they support him financially. His parents even gave him the 300 to file the court papers. He told me that if I want him to help me, that I need to give him a list of what all my bills are and where extactly all my money is going, I have an apt. for the kids so I carry all household bills & things they need. He also said that he doesn't want to hear that I'm going out w/ my friends, if I'm bearly making it, I should stay home but my friends no I'm tight & they invite me,He said I need to prove to him that I need help in order for him to want to help me, I think he's still trying to control me & doesn't want me out so that I don't possibly meet someone else. I think he's still jealous & I shouldn't have to prove all that to him right?
2007-11-02 06:55:44 · 6 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
In the court case, you will have to report all of your income and expense information and so will your ex. The court will then decide on the correct amount of support for your children.
So your ex will get this information through the court case.
It's really better to have a court order. Once you have it, you won't have to beg your ex and be under his control. Child support services in your state should help you collect whatever he is ordered to pay.
2007-11-02 07:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by raichasays 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to show any of that to him, you have to show it to the court.
Get a lawyer- trust me, we made the mistake of not having one.
Let the courts deal with it. Theyll favor the mother anyway.
Deal with the courts and let him do the same.
Unless you split up the kids or divide the time evenly (and possibly even then) you will be guaranteed some amount of child support usually based solely upon his income and number of children.
2007-11-02 07:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Showtunes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your attorney and the court are the only ones you "need" to give this information to. They will make the determination as to how much you both receive in the final decree. Also how much child support you will receive. The forms for your cost to raise the kids will surprise you. They are higher amounts than most people actually spend when together. Your lawyer can assist in filling them out. I think he will receive a "shock" at the courthouse.
2007-11-02 07:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would file the child support papers immediately and they will decide from there what he will need to pay based on his income and your income. If he is not working they normally base his child support obligation on what the average man his age makes or if he has been employed in the past they will base his support amount on the income he made previously. Do not let this man play this game with you. Make sure he knows you are in control and you do not have any obligation to explain yourself to him other than whats going on with the children.
2007-11-02 07:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Connie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't show him a thing. It is not his business. He has a legal monetary obligation to contribute to the support of his children. Go to Court and make him responsible for his children. Hopefully then he'll stop acting like a child himself.
2007-11-02 11:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by janine o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to court, it is his obligation to care for his children and contribute to their food, shelter and all around cost of living. You do not have to prove anything to him, however you do need to file for an emergency support order ASAP.
2007-11-02 07:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋