my son is having problems in school.He did 3rd grad 2x and now he is already failing 4th grade.The school called me wanting a meeting becasue he didnt do his math homework. .... He didnt bring it home...the homework he does bring home i help him with to make sure its done right....but he doesnt always turn it in....does anybody have any ideas what i can do to help my son get his head out of his a ss and start becoming a better student?
2007-11-02 06:14:45 · 16 answers · asked by branbran 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
hes been grounded for the last 2 week...and gotten his a ss beat for lying to me...iv talked to his teacher and she said she was going to have him tested...but the school called me today about his homework...he doenst bring it all home
2007-11-02 06:34:37 · update #1
old lady iv ingnored the bad stuff for too long...thats why im here today...this problem has gotten worse not better
2007-11-02 06:55:58 · update #2
discipline him... this worked for me... I threatend to follow him around school in a fluffy pink dress.
2007-11-02 06:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that transcends school. He hasn't learned responsibility, he hasn't learned the concept of consequences of his actions. Punishing him isn't going to do anything except build resentment. and that isn't a positive outcome. Your son needs professional help - a behavioral psychologist can help get to the root of the problem and find out why he is behaving in this manner, and tell you what you can do to change it around.
Meanwhile, instead of punishing him, try the old carrot trick - give him a reward every time he brings his homework home. Give him a reward when he gets it correct. Reward the good stuff and ignore the bad stuff. He'll catch on pretty quickly that life is much more pleasant if he does what is expected of him.
2007-11-02 06:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have a learning disability that hasn't been diagnosed that is making it difficult for him to do his work. It could be a physical problem with his sight or hearing that may be making it difficult to do his work. Or he could be lazy. There are a variety of problems that could cause this kind of behavior. What you've got to do is get down to the nitty gritty and find out. If he is having trouble learing he's not going to want to say anything to anybody because he'll be embarassed and he probably doesn't want to seek help for fear of being made fun of. Approach the problem carefully and with an open mind. If you discover he's just being lazy, then I suggest pinning his assignments to his shirt to ensure he turns them in and have the teacher pin his assignemtns to his shirt when he comes home. He should come home and go to school everyday with a paper attached, even if it doesn't say anything. This is a little embarassing and may engourage him to do as he's told so he can put an end to the process.
2007-11-02 06:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by w_woody 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take the time to physically walk him into his class at school and actually observe him giving the teacher his homework. Embarrass the hell out of him! He is just being an as shole! Take away ALL privliges and extra-ciricular activities, cell phones ,TV, Stereo, computer, games, everything! Tell him that he doesn't get anything until he earns it, by changing his ways and knuckling down and doing what is expected of him! DO NOT give in on this! What you are doing here is raising a potential criminal, unless you take charge and demand that he follow rules and regualations.
2007-11-02 06:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the school to evaluate him to see if he needs special services. It's possible that he's having trouble due to a learning difference/disability that's not being addressed, so you need to have him assessed. My oldest daughter is in 2nd grade and we have the exact same issues about homework. We created a household contract of things that are expected of her at home and what we expect of her from school, and lay out her rewards and consequences, then my husband, daughter and I all signed it. I also made her teachers at school create a contract for her, and after 3 weeks we're seeing some dramatic changes. She's excited to see check-marks and stickers when she does something well, and enjoys the small "prizes" she gets (extra outside time, time on the computer, a tiny "gift" from a basket) plus the praise she gets for a job well done. Positive reinforcement works MUCH better when you lay out expectations and then praise for good work.
2007-11-02 06:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try getting him a private tutor, but also some kind of psychological help. It sounds as if he may have underlying issues which cause his problems in school.
I understand how hard it is to get answers out of kids. My son is only six and when I ask him about his school day or his interactions with other students, he just says fine. No details what so ever.
2007-11-02 06:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ann D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if i was you i would have a talk with him when he gets home . and tell him that he needs to go to school pay attion on the teacher says and that he needs to bring all of his homeworker home. and i will also set it up with the that before he left the class room make sure he has it all in his bag to bring home to you. and the bus barn to because might be taking thing out to be looking @them on the bus. and trys to get itall in but don't make it all the way.
2007-11-02 07:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked him nicely in a conversation why he has no interest in school? There could be many reasons he is just not interested in doing anything....I would try to talk to him a couple of different times to see if you can get any insight of where his mindset is...then you might know where you can start to help him become a better student.
2007-11-02 06:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by pissy_old_lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have him checked out. Does he have a learning disability? Also gifted kids are more often than not labeled with learning disabilities, have failed grades, been placed in special ed and will drop out of school simply because they are bored, frustrated and unchallenged. Usually by then they are use to hearing "stupid, dumb, disabled etc" so they believe it when in fact they are smarter than their peers and are advanced beyond the subjects they are learning
2007-11-02 06:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bug Fuggy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As much as I dislike saying it your son may be having some psychological problems and I suggest that he gets counseling or changes his counselor if he is being counseled now.
2007-11-02 13:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by DrIG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling him what is his problem. or u could go 2 his classroom each morning and turn in his homework and in the afternoon get his home work and keep doing that and see what will happen. he will not fail.
2007-11-02 07:01:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋