With your first you have all the lullabies going in the room. You had the energy and time to just treat him like a newborn. My second baby is 4 months old and he doesn't get covered with a blanket every time we go out. He doesn't get treated like he is breakable. He is loved and gets LOTS of attention, but I dont' get to treat him as 'babyish' as my first born. He just has to fit into the schedule (hey I even breastfeed him while I am shopping and my older one pushes the cart.. with my first born I would stop and take her somewhere we could relax to breastfeed her)....
2007-11-02 05:20:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am not saying I am doing my second child wrong. It is just different how he is treated. Less time, more experience. I am dissapoitned not to have those same warm fuzzies, but I am not doing anything wrong. Geez
2007-11-02 05:33:39 · update #1
I so know what you mean, but I put it down to confidence with the second one, plus you dont have as much time. Id have my eldest at the health visitor once a month at least, but my second went twice in her life because I knew what I was doing. When my eldest was wee Id go for a snuggle with her while she napped, bu the second one never got that because when she slept I devoted one to one attention on my eldest. Its so difficult, but Id never have it any other way.
2007-11-02 05:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by Janie B 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
guffawing and crying are the two an emotional launch. I cry over no longer something. Then there are days i myself ought to observe a humorous action picture and only snort. I prefer to try this with acquaintances yet on my own works properly additionally. existence is tense now and that i'm no longer getting any help from my husband. He only throws each and everything my way and then expects me to be sympathetic to him. i understand what you recommend approximately drained.
2016-12-30 14:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by lammons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. It is my nephews (I could not have kids) We have about a trillion pictures and videos of my first, and a handful of my second. I guess the newness is gone after the first. The good side of it is you are experienced, so to speak, after the first one. You don't freak out on all the small stuff like colds etc.
2007-11-02 05:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by tropicaldazed 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe it's because with your first you never had a baby and you wanted to make sure you did everything right and got the hang of it. Now you have a second and I'm sure you love that one the same just as much. You're just more aware of what is safe and what is not and you don't have to take extra precautions...but you sound like a good mommy to me =]
2007-11-02 05:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷAℓεx & Aаяöи have my ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
My second baby may night get all the attention that my first one got from me. She does get something better though and it's a big sister that loves and wants to help with her.
2007-11-02 05:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm not disappointed so much as I have lived through one baby and I now know that they're not as fragile as I thought. my 2nd gets plenty of attention, just not the anal retentive type my 1st got. I think in overall quality my 2nd gets better attention because I am not freaking out about every little thing.
2007-11-02 05:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by hebraic princess 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Your time to dote has been cut by 50% by having 2 instead of 1. I am 2nd born and think I had it best. I had a brother that loved me as soon as I was born, he had to wait 3 yrs for me.
2007-11-02 05:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
attention divided by two... does add to the child's dissappointment. Just take some time to make that extra effort, and I am certain that if your firstborn is old enough to push a shopping cart, then she is old enough to understand. Knowing, but doing nothing is the same as knowing nothing.
2007-11-02 05:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Shinji 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
not at all...your just more comfortable bein a mum..first time round your worried everytime they make so much a hicup of a sound but now you know what the signs are. its all part and parcel of having a 2nd baby...what you may not do this time round you make up for in other ways that you wouldnt have with your first baby if you know what i mean!
2007-11-02 05:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
no you should feel dissapointed that your second doenst get the same attention or actions as the first. you learned from your first one all those little things that matter and dont matter. you learned that the baby is not that cold, and that he really isn't breakable. think of it this way it will make him stronger faster!
2007-11-02 05:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋