Have you ever dated outside your race?

Question

Do you have interracial children?
Has your family accepted this?

I was married to a white man and we have one child together and the family was really cool with this. My oldest daughter is also biracial and his family did have a problem with it.

Answer 1

I am married to a Jamaican. I have one white child from a previous relationship and then we have 3 mixed race children to gether.
My family were always cool about it, but then I dated a black guy before I met my husband.
My husbands family are also cool because most of his generation are in relationships with white people (we live in London), all of my childrens cousins are mixed race.

Answer 2

I dated a black man for a couple of months when I was 23, and he was 25. His family hated me. His dad and I got along very well, but the mother and sisters? They treated me horribly. My friend was the only boy and the youngest in the family. He did what he was told, and said goodbye to me. I ran into him and his new family at a wedding I was shooting about 8 years later, he was married to a black woman, and they had 3 little girls and were waiting on a boy.

Now, I have a friend that I met at work about 18 years ago, and he had just gotten married. He's white, and she's black. After getting to know Steve, we all wondered what his wife saw in him! But, after meeting her, and getting to know them together as a couple, it was clear that those two had something really special. They are still going strong today, their son is healthy, smart and simply gorgeous at 17. He is an outstanding young man, and his parents are to blame for that.

I don't think it has anything to do with the color of our skin whether we get along with each other or not. Society's anxious and hateful (phobias) "rules" have damaged our ability to see and think clearly in the matter of variations of ethnicity. Some of us can see past all that, to the bigger picture; we are all human. Some are scared of diversity, of change, of progress. They teach that to their children, and so on, and so on...

Answer 3

I am an American-born Indian, currently engaged to a white man, and will be married next year. My parents haven't met the guy (and don't seem to plan to at all) and my dad hardly speaks to me now.

So no, my family has not accepted this. I don't plan to have biological children, but I do want to adopt a couple kids from different places around the world eventually. I think this upsets my parents even more.

Answer 4

I haven't .. but only because I came from a pretty much 100% white community and the opportunity didn't arise .. I am married now .. so I don't even date within my race :)

BUT i would never had NOT dated somebody because they weren't white .. and as far as I know my family .. there wouldn't have been an issue..

I don't care what race of person my daughter ends up with .. so long as she is happy and cared for and loved.

:)

Answer 5

Yes and I married him. My husband comes from the Philippines and we now have a very beautiful, European-Asia mix, daughter. It can be hard, as not everyone understands. Most of our family is supportive, I think there was more objection on his side than ours, but only because none of his family had ever left the Philippines so they were worried. Sometimes the reason we argue is because of our different backgrounds and upbringing. It is also very naive to say 'love conquers all' it helps but so does communication. That's the key, take care and lol.

Answer 6

Yes, yes, and yes.
My husband is from Tuxpan, Veracruz, Mexico. My children are GORGEOUS!!! Thanks to his mothers genes. lol My daughter is lighter than my son but her skin looks like a sunkissed tan where my son looks like he has a permanent tan. Big brown eyes and medium light brown hair. I always tell him they look more like his mom. LOL
We have been married 11yrs this December and like any marriage, we butt heads once in a while, but still end up being the family no matter what. We used to catch a lot of flack during the immigration debate and many thought I had married him so he could be legal, but during 1987 and the amnesty, he was already legal. I met him in 1994 just after Christmas and we were married in December 1996. My father liked him because he thought like he did and enjoyed his calm and respectful demeanor. (My dad was a closet racist - sort of - he was raised in Southern Missippi near the coast and that was the culture of his community) he learned to overcome some of the old stereotypes but he would have disowned me if I had married a black man. Stupid, I know, but he was born in 1926 Mississippi so theres his thoughts as well. My mom loves my husband and thinks he is just the nicest and handsomest person she ever met. She was born in Pasadena Texas and was not raised too racially aware.
So truthfully, we had more discord with people outside of our family more than our own family. Even his mom met me the first time and introduced herself and her husband as my father in law and new mother in law - and we weren't even married. That tells you how we were loved for who we are than what we are. As long as you have that kind family on both sides no one in the world can get to you.

Answer 7

I have dated outside my race, but no children resulted because of the dates. I dated a black, a Japanese, a Vietnamese and a Thai. I treated those young women with respect and didn't try to get into their pants just because we dated. I tried something unique..I waited to get married before I had children.

Answer 8

Because I am mixed, I guess I have never technically dated outside of my race. I do consider myself a black woman, and I date mostly black men. I did date one white guy however a few years back and he was a dog, I don't hold it against all whites men though. I am in a long term relationship with a black man now.

Answer 9

yup. I'm a filipino..I dated a latino, british, white and half chinese. My family is okay with this..They have no problems with interracial relationships..Because race isnt really all that important, Whats important is not found on the outside..but what we feel on the inside.

Answer 10

I have never dated outside my species, but inside my species, I never to had a black woman accept an invitation for date with me.