My husband and i haven't had sex in months, not that our sexlife was ever that great but we made a commitment to work on it, but he just rejects me. On his computer are mostly transexual sites, also i found an e-mail to a transexual escort. What do I do?, he told me months ago that the tranny thing would never happen anymore and that he was over it, but 6 months later he has a library of beautiful women with penis's, movies, contact pages for transexuals, escorts and more! we had a fight over the weekend where he told me that he was not sexually attracted to me, then took it back but i can't forget about it. I am usually openminded and have had great sexual histories and exciting experiences with my past partners, i haven't had any with my husband, he rejecs me when i innitiate sex so i have stopped and he never innitiates sex either, its like i have a roomate and i am the chef and the maid and get no pleasure from our relationship, i love him but do i really diserve this?
2007-11-01 22:32:12 · 15 answers · asked by 1060bbk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fortualtely we do not have childern, i can't talk to my friends or family about this so thanks for your help everyone, i am so far away from everything i know and love and only have him here, i live in amsterdam and come form the usa, i gave everything up in the us to be with him in amsterdam because he can't go back to the us right now.
2007-11-01 22:49:17 · update #1
Time to find a man that likes women. I hope that you realize that you will not change him. Sometimes loving someone is just not enough to make a marriage work.
2007-11-01 22:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 06:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!
He is ruining your relationship and it will eventually ruin your marriage. He cannot just decide that he doesn't want to make love to you and he definitely can't decide to ignore his wife to go play with transsexual porn! That's sick. That's not a husband.
He is the one with the problem, NOT YOU! Don't let him make you feel like you have the problem. Don't ignore anything he says and anything he's doing. With self respect, pride and dignity you have to confront him with your chin up and your arms folded and tell him that this will stop. Say "What would you do? I married you, because I love you and now you're my husband. Well, everybody knows a husband makes love to his wife, but you, my husband obviously has a problem, because he won't make love to me! If you think I'm going to go thru life with a husband that doesn't know how to act like a man and make love to his wife, then you're going to learn from your mistake! This is a major problem and if you chose not to fix it, then I'm going to have to file for divorce so I could make love to a real man"!
Just keep your strength and control. Make sure he knows that this is his problem and you won't accept it. You have the right. You're his wife! I wish you all the luck.
2007-11-01 23:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not deserve this, just re-read your question and you will find your answer.
You need to go your own way and find someone who will get pleasure in the things that you like to do with you.
He needs to find someone who will get pleasure with him and his ways.
You both are going seperate ways, and I think you know that, you did not mention having kids, and if you do, I hope he keeps his computer with all of his stuff on it "locked up"!
If you do not have kids, then go your own ways now, and get a divorce, there is no point in making your life miserable by staying in a situation that is making your life a living He**.
2007-11-01 22:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce now and come back home where all your friends are . Im sure you will find a good man that will love and take care of you
2007-11-02 02:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by DR. Obvious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You are lucky if he is having sex with men you need to be sure if you have sex with him to make him use a condom! Maybe it's time to move on with your life,you don't happen to be in Texas? Just wishing! Good luck,be happy.
2007-11-01 22:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage. Do you really want to live like this? If you want to stay and try to work it out with him, then get marriage counseling at least, but he has to want to work it out with you too. And you don't deserve this; you deserve so much better.
2007-11-01 22:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by sfjadeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is gay, and he is ashamed of it. Many men who feel this way are attracted to transexuals, it's as if the female characteristics somehow offset the fact that they are having sex with men, and make it less taboo.
Save your heart dear girl and cut him loose. This type of preference doesn't go away and he is using you to create his illusion of being straight. I've got nothing against gays, but I don't like to see a person like yourself waste your life being someone elses "prop". Good luck, hope you find someone worthy. :o)
2007-11-01 22:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
iTs nothing personal just a matter of sexual preference so its time you have to decide if you want to live this life and if you can live this life 10 years on ?
2007-11-01 22:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should go to sexologist doctor.He can help u both in this situation.
2007-11-01 22:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by ganeshkumble11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋