im 16,ive only got about 3 friends well only 2 close friends ,but not so much anymore ,for the past few months i dont go out anymore or drink and i quit smoking, when they go out all they do is walk the streets meet up with bad influence friends that they think are cool,and they think they are going to be popular hanging out with them,i am saving my virginity till after amrriage and they are only 15 and have already slept with atleast 5 guys, and i dont go out with them and i dont do that so now they think ive got problems cause i dont leave the house, and alway talk behind my bak saying i have no life, when they are around me they are really good people but they totaly chage when not with me or when we are with there group? how do i get them to stop and to make them grow up and what they do is not cool, but ive tried to tell them and they think im the idiot we have grown up 2gether nd i dnt want to lose them, .......
2007-11-01 21:57:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
also i have bin in manic depression for the past year, mainly after my loved one dying , and she dosnt even no i tried telling her once cause i have noone at all to talk , and she changed the subject , shes not there for me like im there for her,even when my 13 yr old dog died she was with me and i was trying so hard to hold my cry in untill she left and she new how much i would just want to die after my dog died cause she was everything to me and she just said itll be ok! do you think ur mum could drop me home??? and when i bring my dog up somtimes she changes the subject again??
2007-11-01 22:02:22 · update #1
Find some new supportive friends. Friends that will be a good influence.
Your current ones will probably end up pregnant to some loser guys and working a deadend job for the rest of their lives. You have such an opportunity here to change the direction in your life.
2007-11-01 22:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you`re very smart for your age. I`m really sorry about your Dog, it`s hard I know, you must have had him,since you were 3 That would be hard. People, don`t realize how much a pet can mean to them untill they lose one, but he was your best friend. You need to get a puppy,I know that it`s hard, but I think your former pet friend would want that.You need someone to talk to.Stay clean. I ve tried to tell my daughter how people can change She`s 9.So I really do feel for you- not going with the crowd It is gonna cut you out, but in reality YOU are the one who will make great life choices.I`m really proud of you, just when you think noone is out there you`ll find a new friend. Right now it`s important for you to get a puppy, Dont be afraid to Love.GOOD LUCK GOD BLESS YOU. I`d have my Mom to take me to the animal shelter to "save" a dog.
2007-11-01 22:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not true friends. If we are lucky in life, we only get a couple of true friends. Just accept that they are not true friends a deal with them accordingly. Talk to a family member about your problems until you finally find a true friend to talk to.
You can not make anyone grow up and be more mature. You just have to either accept them for what they are or leave them alone. Don't change just to be accepted. A true friend will love you as you are.
2007-11-01 22:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. I felt kind of like you do when I was in school. I never did find any true friends. I wasn't willing to do alcohol, drugs or sex and some people put me down for that. I finally had to choose to be a loner rather than do things that I didn't want to do. Most people are pretty OK when you are one-on-one with them, but in a group.....so many people just go along with whoever is the strongest, even if that person is a jerk High School was lonely for me, but when its over....its over for ever. You will get through these rough years.
Its especially tough about your dog. It sounds like your "friend" hasn't suffered much or lost anyone. She can't empathize with your pain. Most people feel uncomfortable when someone is in a lot of pain - they don't know what to say or how to act, so they try to shut the hurting person down. Its not right, but lots of people, even adults are like this. Have you ever tried writing your feelings down. Keeping a journal(one you hide for privacy/safety), can be very helpful. When I'm feeling weird, sad, angry, confused I write it down and sometimes then I can see what's really going on with me. It also lets off some of the emotional pressure I feel inside. Do you have any safe(trustworthy), adult woman you can talk to? Sometimes it just helps to have a grown-up to talk to, if they will listen, keep your confidence and not lecture you about things.
I've struggled with depression from abuse I suffered as a child. Having bi-polar issues does give you a real struggle sometimes, but more and more forms of help are coming along. Having this issue isn't easy, but you will find ways and means to deal with it as you get a little bit older.
It is so hard to go through all the changes and experiences that come with your teens. Nothing in the magazines or movies is really a help, mostly they just want to sell you make-up and clothes/ cd's and dvds. You are getting thousands of wrong messages about your body and sex. Its tough!!!
When I was 18, I met Jesus Christ and became a Christian. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I knew then that God loves me and will never desert me. You can always talk to God, just like He is a person in the room with you. He is awesome.
I wish I had something to give you that "would make it all better", but those types of things don't work past age 5. :)
I can tell you are intelligent and have a mind of your own. I respect your views of abstinence from sex until marriage. I wasn't sorry I waited and I met lots of girls who were sorry later that they didn't wait. Don't let others opinions of you matter too much. Most of them aren't doing anything you would want to imitate.
One last thing in this very long answer...Look around you for hobbies or worthwhile things to be involved in. Helping/volunteering a few hours a week can help you while you help someone else. There are many opportunities in places like animal shelters, nursing homes, mentoring programs, tutoring. You sound like a woman with a lot to give. I hope things get better for you soon, hang in there, OK?
2007-11-01 22:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by LeslieAnn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen sweetie i am 24 and people are still like that. it might never change it will never get any easier but the only thing you can do is either leave them and find new friends or saty and get into major troble from listening to them and probley end up pregnant at 17. your life and your choice but make the right one don't let them make it for you.
2007-11-01 22:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by serrtine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find others friends and then tell them i told you so once they all get pregnant
dont let these ones try to influence you into being bad
2007-11-01 22:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by monizk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fyou need new friends...try church groups
2007-11-01 22:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋