My roommate and i have been best friends for eleven years, and we just moved in together last month. How do we keep from killing each other and keep our friendship intact?Any tips or rules to follow?
2007-11-01 21:08:40 · 9 answers · asked by triviaqueen06702 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe you should move out....but still keep in contact with her
2007-11-01 21:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rules For Co-Habitation
1.) Respect- Respect eachothers privacy and belongings. Respect eachothers personal space, feelings and beliefs.
2.) Truth- Always be truthful with one another. If you lie about something it will come back and be 10x worse than what it originally would have been
3.) Set rules. Sit down and both of you come up with rules. For example Are boyfriends allowed to spend the night. If so then which nights during the week or only on the weekend. Who is to take out the trash. Rotating basis or is one person responsible for it. How are the bills to be paid, I suggest setting up a seperate bank account with both of your names on it,. You then each deposit your portion of the rent, and bills into the bank account and then either of you can write the check and sign it.
Compromise. You are not going to agree on everything. Learn to compromise.
Communication,. Make sure that you keep the lines of communication open. If your roommate does something that bothers you don't keep it in, Let them know and work it out. If you don't say anything they will continue to do it and you will just get madder until you finally blow up,
Have fun but set boundries. Good luck
2007-11-01 21:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately give each other space.
Spending too much time together is VERY unhealthy and may lead to the friendship being broken. Also try talking about things every now and again, ask each other how you are feeling, sit down and discuss any issues you have and be completely honest. Even if you end up getting upset.. better out then in!
Goodluck =D
2007-11-01 21:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw a line down the center of the room, making sure to leave yourself the side with the bathroom on it.
In all seriousness, it's relatively easy. As Jesus said: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If dirty dishes drive you nuts, rinse yours and put them in the dishwasher after use. If you hate it when people leave towels / dirty clothes on the floor, make sure you're picking yours up and get a hamper / basket for the bathroom. All in all, you guys have been best friends for 11 years and know how to treat each other. Just respect her personal space and she'll do the same.
2007-11-01 22:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Nick C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been a month and that's still too soon to become accustomed to each other's personal home living lifestyles.
You both need to talk out what bothers you about each other in a civil manner, agree to disagree, if that helps. Come to agreement on how you can not offend each other---and set some boundaries. It's important to respect those boundaries and have the discipline to not overstep them.
2007-11-01 21:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just work it out. As with moving in with anyone, you are really going to find out the crazy things that annoy the crap out of you. But you need to learn to deal with them. Such as never doing the dishes...not feeding the dog, etc. Even splattering the mirror with toothpaste! This is the reason why you should live with your guy before you get married...to see if you could actually handle this stuff!
2007-11-01 21:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant live with each other...you need a trial seperation...the more your around each other the more freedom you want...get out of the relationship...she aint your girlfriend.....stay friends not live in buddys....get your own lives....apart...absence makes the heart grow fonder
2007-11-01 21:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by l8rz_h8rz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out...
2007-11-01 22:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by S.I.C.K. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put sticking plaster over your mouths and get someone to tie you both up and then you wont fight or argue
2007-11-01 21:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋