My husband has in & out of these type of internet sites for a few years now (I know by checking the history). Recently he had an email and they referred to him as a member sending him pics of potential matches, etc. I don't think he'd cheat, but he works long hours, and I sometimes wonder if he wants someone else. Also, money seems short at times. What would you think??
2007-11-01 20:46:04 · 11 answers · asked by mom of 2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may be looking, but as far as the money, you can join these sites for free and get matches via e-mail. You just don't have all the priveledges of membership which usually means you cannot actually make direct contact with anyone. You can look, but not touch basically. The most you can do without paying is look at their picture and profile and maybe send them through the site a generic e-mail which the site writes. Usually something like " Your profile made me smile or I like your profile". If you have seen the matches, you should be able to get into his account. His username will be on the e-mail and the site link should be too. Go to the site and type in the username and there should be something that says "forgot password". Click that, it usually will ask you to put in the e-mail address where the account was registered. Type in the e-mail address and they will send you the password. Go back and put in username and password. At that point you should be able to see how far he has went. Check what e-mails he has sent/received and his account status (how much he paid).
Once you figure this out then I would talk to your husband. I wouldn't before because then he could delete things. At least you may be able to tell how far things have gone.
Good luck!
Oh, this was from personal expereince with my husband and there are alot of these sites out there Adult Friendfinder is one of the biggest.
Feel free to e-mail me any questions you may have.
2007-11-01 21:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating on you but one thing is for sure he is getting "kicks" from these sites. We are all human and everyone appreciates a beauty in form, be it live, on the internet, or in some strip joint. One thing you can do is look at your monthly banking statements and look at any obscure recurring payments. You can track it down also by clicking on the JOIN button and it will probably say "will be billed monthly as xxxxxxx.net". The long hours are part of work...I work long hours because I have to...My wife will think I am seeing someone and I just tell her, you think I make this kind of money by seeing someone on the side? Which ends the conversation quick...Plus I tell her that if I am going to be cheating on you, it will be with my motorcycle and my gym membership.
2007-11-02 04:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Where Has The Love Gone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has it taken you so long to talk to him about this? Are you that afraid of him being sexually interested in other people that you can't bring yourself to finally be certain? Is being certain one way or the other going to be much worse than this constant state of uncertainty and fear? Find out. And be done with it.
Your husband is the only one who can answer your questions satisfactorily, but be careful how you approach him. Approach him aggressively and angrily and it will just drive the behaviour deeper underground. You may think this is a better solution - great! that way at least you don't have to be aware of it! - but the reality is that the seclusion this forces on him will only drive him further away from you and cause him to seek comfort from his loneliness elsewhere...because you're not giving him any sense that you care how he feels, or that you want his company. I'm not just talking about sex, here. I'm talking about EMOTIONAL intimacy.
This world is a nasty, rough place and we all build shells around ourselves to protect our soft and gooey centres. The mystical and magical "soulmate" that so many people get stars in their eyes about is nothing more than someone whom you trust enough to let past that outer shell that keeps the world away. This is as scary as it sounds. Once you let someone in, they can utterly destroy you...or they can provide you a solace that you never knew was possible. So you choose your soulmate carefully.
Is your husband the kind of man you would trust with everything you protect behind your outer shell, your armour? If you'd like him to be, just start by loving him. Concern yourself with his loneliness and seclusion. Try to put aside for the moment WHAT it is he's doing and start concerning yourself with WHY he's doing it. I'm not condoning cheating by any means! I'm just saying, if you have a disease or injury that's causing you pain, sometimes you have to put aside the pain for a moment so that you can let the mind work at finding the cure.
2007-11-04 14:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to bring it out into the light, now.
He is walking a very thin line right now and could very easily cross over.
He is feeling un-forfilled for some reason, or for all the reasons you just listed.
He also seems like he is reaching out to others (females) because something is lacking in your relationship.
Why did you wait for a few years to say something.
Kind of makes me feel you don't really care one way or another and maybe that is what he is picking up on too, you don't care.
Time for you to let him know How you feel and show him!
2007-11-01 20:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is more interested in the unwanted sites. he is enjoying seeing all those things which spoils your mind and loss of money. He wants to enjoy sex in the manner shown on sites and probably he works long hours seeing all those stupid things and he is not going to get anyone on the sites he is watching. so dont worryabout it.
2007-11-01 20:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by kamal m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-06-24 03:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand?What is the question?If there is money missing and he is missing sometime it sounds like he is visiting prosititutes.Does CraigList.com show up in his history?You know there are a lot of hookers on that site?Good luck.
2007-11-01 20:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2015-05-28 02:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a member he has been cheating. Check it out.
2007-11-01 20:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't look good to me. Where there is smoke there is fire. Hire a private eye or follow him one night.
2007-11-01 20:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Chipmonk 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋