I am not getting married??????????

Question

Alright so this is a follow up question. I posted a question about if you should love your mom or wife more and you got it twisted and made it about me I was asking you not about me. I know I love my mom more then anyone in the world she will always be there for me and that will never change no matter what you say. Now no one really answered What You define as a mommas boy. I dont live in the same state as my mother and from my definition I am not one so if you think I am give me a definition that fits that. I am independent live in an apartment , dont go running to my mom for everything can handle it on my own plus that would be a long run. I am hopefully gonna turn pro in boxing soon so I can quit my gay job. So my question is how do you define a mommas boy and why do you think your wife should come first over your mother who will always be there for you.

I just dont get how you could say your wife comes first for all you know she could be ******* some other guy and most marriages end in divorce. So why would you put some one you have known for a portion of your life over the one who gave birth and sacrificed everything for you. Me I dont get that and no one will ever come before my mother. Really you can call me a mommas boy all you want cuz I love mom and dont care what people say about me not gonna change how I feel or what I do. I want to know how you could ever put anyone before your mom just blows my mind

No I dont need to convince myself of anything I know who I am and no one will change that I am trying to figure out others

My mother is my family when she dies I will have memories and what she has taught me. I am independent that I dont need no one I am an island but I want my mother in my life

well thats good then for me my priority will always be my mom and boxing of course

well then I am not one I live on my own, make my own food (good cook my mom taught me), do my own laundry, and my mom disagrees with a lot of my decisions I am fine with that

Answer 1

Now it sounds like you are trying to convince yourself of something.

Answer 2

The phrase Momma's Boy is a negative one. It means the guy is not grown up enough to cut the apron strings with his Mom. For example, he still needs her advice, cooking and laundry instead of doing it himself. Of course your mother will always have a special place in your heart. But once you get married your wife comes first. The Bible tells us that. (I think in Corinthians). Your mother has raised you to be independent. I told my sons when they were young that I (with emphasis) came first! And that when they married their wife must come first. Many times I didn't like it, but that's just the way it is. They have new families. And because my DIL's know that, there is no tension between us. They know my sons love me with all their heart but they also love their woman with all their heart. It's a totally different love. You can still be married and be a Momma's boy but your wife won't like it. Once married you are to discuss things with your wife first before Mom. In other words, if you are thinking about changing jobs or something similar do not talk it over with Mom first. Being a Momma's Boy doesn't give Mom much freedom, either. It doesn't sound to me like you are the classic Momma's Boy but that you are very close to your mother - protective of her and respectful of her thoughts and ideas. Don't let anyone rattle you by calling you that. Some sons don't even bother with their mothers ... how sad is that!?

Answer 3

Your mother should raise you to be independent of her and to be self-sufficient, loyal, mature, truthful, etc. with your new family. A mommas boy is a person who puts their mother, often, before their own family. ie. if the mother and wife have a disagreement, regardless of fault/rightness, the man will side with the mother. Also this is seen when a grown man chooses to turn to his mother to discuss the private issues within his marriage, again causing friction between spouse and mother. Another example would be if a grown man is required/ wishes to do things for his mother that are unnecessary and interfere with his family life (wife and children). Your wife and children always come first once you are married. If that is not so in your life, then you are destined to defining your marriage, in your words, as someone who won't always be there for you. Why would any woman commit to a man for life who isn't committed to her 100%. good luck!!

Answer 4

You should love them equally but in different ways. A mommas boy is someone who always runs to there mother for everything and from what i can see your not one so dont worry. A man should love and adore a wife and treat her like number 1 cos she will be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and of course you will always love your mom cos she raised and took care of you and will always be in your life but its different when your older your priority then is your future partner who will most likely be a mother to. But in saying that its the persons choice if they want to get married or not.

Answer 5

I am surprised to go through your question.Firstly you should understand every human has a life where they should balance the things . No one in the world can take the place of the place mom holds, but still you have to give a place in your heart for your mom and wife.Both have different values in life. Mommas boy is some one who does not drink water also without her permission. So the question of mom coming first or wife coming first is upto you to decide how you want to balance things where-in both are equal.

Answer 6

OK your not getting married. You shouldn't compare a wife to a mother both are very different. About the mommas boy. That term is used for guys that turn to their mommies when things go wrong something like what a child would do.

Answer 7

Your wife will always be there for you too. When you take a wife that is your family. Everybody else is your extended family. You love each of them the differently. The only ones that would come before me with my husband are our children and I would not have that any other way. Yes your wife should come first. A mommas boy is someone that has to have her approval for everything. One that runs to her with every little problem instead of dealing with it like a man. One that would put her before his wife.

Answer 8

Ok lets see how would you feel if you fell in love with a beautiful girl got married had a kid and the girl gave the first place in her life to her mother,took her mothers advice or preferred her mother first in all things giving u second place in life.Not nice right well thats how ull make ur wife feel like shes in second place.

Answer 9

a momma's boy puts his mom before his wife.

if you marry, your wife will most likely raise your children (hopefully) and bury you when you die.

you will most likely outlive your mom. if you prefer to die young your mom may end up burying you.

and why would you say that your mother will always be there for you? where will YOUR wife be?

mother's and wives have a different role. respect each as they pertain to your needs and lifestyle and their personalities.

Answer 10

Mama's boy does not have to be a negative term. Regardless of what you or anyone thinks, you will always be "Mama's Boy" in her eyes. It's so refreshing to see someone who cares for their mom unconditionally. There is too much hate and discontent in American homes nowadays. Love your mom with all your heart while you still can.