why does he always leave?

Question

MY HUSBAND AND I ARE ALWAYS FIGTHING FOR STUPID REASONS. AND HE ALWAYS FINDS AND A EXCUSE TO LIVE AND SPENDS THE NIGTH WITH AT HIS MOMS HOUSE. I DECIDE TO STAY QUITE EVERYTIME HE
FEELS LIKE ARGUEING AND IT KINDA WORK BUT
IT GOT TO THE LIMITE I COULRENT TAKE IT ANYMORE AND WE GOT IN A ARGUMENT AND HE LEAFT TO HIS MOM HOUSE WHAT SHOULD I DO HIS ALWAYS LEAVING AND I DONT LIKE THAT.

Answer 1

Cuz hes a mamas boy so he runs home to mommy. You married a wimpy little boy. Tell him if he is a good boy mommy will take his balls out of her purse and maybe give them back to him.

Answer 2

Hmm. are you sure he is at his " moms " house? Maybe he is finding a reason to argue so he can go to his " side chick" house. I mean you never know. Just because he says he is at his moms doesnt mean he is there. I would go over there, and see if he is there. No- then that would be stalking. Well I say he seems like a mommys boy. I never liked them kind of men. Every time something goes wrong, no matter what it is - they run to mommy. You didnt marry a boy you married a man. Maybe he should start acting like a " man". So what if you two are arguing, that is no reason for him to run to his moms house. Stay home and work things out. Discuss things with his WIFE, not his MOM. You two are married, he needs to understand that when you got married you became ONE. Mom has nothing to do with what goes on in your household.

Geez- tell him to grow some balls!

Answer 3

He is controlling you.

You are walking around on egg shells, afraid to say something that will send him to his mom's house.

There are 4 things that controllers do to you when they are trying to get their way.

First they start calling you names and belittling you.
If that doesn't work they move on to the second one which is guilt tripping you.
If that doesn't work then it's number 3 anger.
If that doesn't work then it's on to number 4 abandonment.

Your husband is stuck on number 4.

Try reverse tactics on him. Don't be mean, just become unconcerned and distant. Don't call after him, don't look for him. Hardly even notice when he comes home. Find something else to do. He is too sure about you. If you turn the tables on him and you hold out long enough he will come around to find out why you are not the insecure one any longer and he will become the insecure one. This really works.

You can also not be home when he decides to come back from mama's house. You have to make him not so sure about you.

Answer 4

You got to find out why you are fighting in the first place. If it is because he snores or leaves the toilet seat up, then you two need to stop and think about what is really going on.

You two need to pick and choose your battles. Let some things go. THis goes for the both of you. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and this is the first thing we learned in pre martial counseling.
If you two are still fighting or he still continues to leave, sit him down and straight out ask him why he wants to leave all the time. If all else fails, then I would say to start going to marraige counseling, just dont stay quiet.

Answer 5

You both need to go to counseling to learn how to communicate differences of opinion without it getting out of hand. Communication is the real key to any healthy long-term relationship. You are not always going to agree on everything, but you should be able to talk about it without it becoming an argument everytime.

Not sure what you should do about him running home to Mommy, but I maybe would find a friend (platonic girl) and have a fun night.

Answer 6

You guys must have a serious talk. How long have you been married? How old are you? It seems as if you both need help, but quick.

Going to his mom's house? Are you sure? I don't want to put ideas in your head, but a grown man doesn't run to his mom's every time he has a problem. He might be going to someone else's house. Open your eyes...This might be just an excuse to sleep around... But, hey, I am not there to know all the facts, just talk to him and find out how you guys can work this out...

Answer 7

Are the fights more frequent or have they always been like this? He might not be at his moms. He knows that you are not going to come over there when this happens. I would find out for sure where he really is. If he is at his moms I would tell him to stay there. He needs to grow up and quit running to mommy.

Answer 8

Guys are good about argueing but they can't take it back. A man will leave because he knows he is only going to get madder and then do something that he will regret doing. Like hitting you or pushing you or saying something that he does not even believe himself. so.. he leaves.. I have never heard of one going to his mothers house though. This is a little strange. I think I would look into that one and make sure he is there. Like drive by and see his car there some night.. just to be sure.

Answer 9

his mom need to put a stop to it, by the way why do you think it is to his mom house he went
your husband seems to pick fight with you so he can get out of the house
you need to sit down with your mother in law and ask her how would she have felt if her husband had done the same to her
and tell her that you would like to resolve your fight with your husband and not have him run away everytime .

Answer 10

Cook him a wonderful meal,light up some candles,bring on the dim lights and tell him how much you really love him.Then have a good talk with him bout' this issue,let him know that you really don't like him to just walk out like this all the time.Kiss up & make up.Good luck!

Answer 11

He has a woman at his moms or really close by! Are you sure he is at his Moms?He is fighting so he will have a reason to leave and spend the night with someone else.Sorry.Find some else.